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writes:So there's this girl that i really like. So here's the story.I moved to a new state during my senior year, and i met this girl on my first day at the new school. She seems really cool and all. At that time, she had a boyfriend. After getting to know her,i started to like her and i didn't want to say anything since she had a boyfriend.So as months went by and she broke up with her boyfriend, my feelings for her began to grow stronger, but i doubted the fact that she liked me. We talked and i always tried to make to keep her smiling. I absolutely love this girl and can get her out of my head. When i'm around her, i become speechless and i begin to say stupid stuff. There's just something about her that makes me smile. I'll still doubt whether she likes me or not, but that's not the only problem. Well i think she may like someone else, but i'm not totally sure. I eventually asked her to prom and she said yes. which made me happy. At prom we had so much fun dancing and just talking, holding hands, slow dancing, taking pictures and so on.I asked one of her friends if she liked anyone, but i was told that she really doesn't talk about it much. But i was also told that her and this guy are friends, just friends, which i don't think is true. Maybe its just my guts telling me that she may like someone else. anyways, there's another problem, my mom and i made this deal in which this year i would avoid getting into a relationship. I'm just majorly confused as to what to do right now. I'm pratically falling for this girl and i can't get her out of my mind.
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reader, ultimate4000 +, writes (23 May 2011):
ultimate4000 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for the advice. I'm going to take that into consideration. It helped alot
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reader, Odds +, writes (23 May 2011):
 You've missed a lot of opportunities to make a move. Girls only give so many of those before they move on. You have to make a move, even if you don't think there's a high chance of success. The months following her breakup would have been a good time. Prom would have been a great time.
It's worth noting that, since you asked her friend if she liked anyone - well, by now her friend has gotten her alone and mentioned that you asked that. And they've both concluded you must like her, since you asked. So now is another good time. Strike when the iron is hot.
Who cares if she doesn't like you yet? Or if she might like someone else? Nothing matters until you're dating. You stand a better chance of swaying her feelings as a boyfriend than as just a friend.
I know it's tough to make a move. Get over that. If it was easy to ask this girl out, somebody would have already. The longer you wait, the more likely somebody else will. Risking rejection is part of romance. Confident guys take risks; timid guys wait fruitlessly for the perfect moment. Be the confident guy.
As for your agreement with your mom, find a way out of that. Was it for your grades, or for house finances? Try to figure a way to bargain out of it. You don't want to just lie, but it's a bad deal to work under.
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