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writes:i've been with my boyfriend for two years. i love him deeply and i believe he loves me. but lately, cracks have begun to show and we argue over petty things. is love really enough? or do you sometimes have to think with your head and not your heart? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2010): Original poster!
wow. thanks for the advice, "returningthefavor"
it really made me think. thanks.
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reader, ReturningtheFavor  +, writes (7 February 2010):
Im going to take a different stance than the other poster. Yes love can be enough! Every relationship goes through changes and rough times. Arguing over petty things frequently is a very common occurence in relationships, its normal. What you need to focus on is why are you two arguing. Are you unhappy with each other aand that is why you are having the arguements? Are you both stubborn? Did you just move in together? What has changed right before you started arguing all time. I think its best to email your partner and honest letter about how you feel and apologize ( as a peace offering) for all the fighting lately. You are not admitting you are wrong, its just way of creating a soft tone to the email and allowing your partner to be more receptive to what you say. Two years is a fairly significant relationship, especially if you are younger. So its definitely worth working on because obviously you two have a connection. Oh and yes sometimes you have to think with your head rather than your heart! I have done it many times before, love is blind, love is irrational but at the same time its rational, its reasonable and unreasonable! Sometimes you just have to put one aside to figure out what needs to be done!!!! Dont take it as a bad sign that you relationship is failing if you have to seperate your head and heart. It just shows your genuine commitment to getting to the root of the problem and fixing it. Good luck and remember happiness can only be defined by you! Dont let anyone tell you what is going to make you happy especially in LOVE! ( me included)
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