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writes:Okay... I am a fifteen year old female student at a secondary school in essex. I've always been academic and decided not to get involved in relationships to focus on my school work. But then in September '07 I fell in love with my new science teacher... and she's female. I never get crushes on people but then i met her. I love her madly and think about her constantly. I've never shown any signs that I love her. then just before christmas she told us she was getting married, and my world fell apart. The day she married I felt terrible, heart broken. She's obviously happyily married and has decided to inforce her new name, it serves as a constant reminder to me. Now she's pregnant. when i heard i cried and cried. because it means she's leaving the school and not coming back. and i'll never see her again. what's happening?! am i gay? what should i do? should i tell her? please help me!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2008): Hey
I'm going to take a completely different approach to this coz I kinda know where you're coming from. I really love one of my teachers too. Like everytime I see her my heart skips a beat. She's not married but I don't think she likes me.
It sounds like a complete cliche but if you really love her you'll let her go, no matter how much it hurts. I'm not going to say you'll forget her coz chances are you may look back in a few years time and still wonder "what if?..." but it's for the best.
I hope this helped :)
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reader, sweet_lover101 +, writes (27 June 2008):
 Im really deeply sorry for you going all through this. Hey everyone's gone with difficult at times. But its for the best to just let it go. Dont risk her new life with her baby and husband. And if your very worried about being gay well, your in your teens the same sex crushes or love whatever you call them are very normal. So if you need any further help don't hesitate to private message me :)
xxx and good luck!
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reader, babewithbrains +, writes (25 June 2008):
 Its sad when people leave, and I know your pain, but you have to move on now, because she has a husband and a baby, she can always like you, but she won't love you like you love her.
You might well be homosexual, and this was a painful way to find out. You should tell a close friend because shcools are very harsh about sexuality, so if you do feel the need to tell some one, tell some one in confidence.
There is nothing wrong in loving any body, as long as it is love, not lust.
Good luck, and I'm sorry that you've had such a hard time.
Jelly
xxx
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reader, goodiea +, writes (25 June 2008):
listen to me there is nothing wrong with how you are feeling but by the sounds of it you are stalking your teacher you eather get to grips with yourself in time you will enjoy the company of the oppisite sex if not there is nothing wrong with being gay
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2008): One thing that I suggest is to not tell her. I think the idea of one student to like a teacher sounds sometimes weird for the teacher themselves, but I think it will be weirder to know a student of the same sex likes her.
I can't really tell you that it is love or it isnt, but I will regard it as a strong crush. I'm pretty sure you admired this lady so much that you created feelings that you may have confused as love. In the other hand, she may be indeed your first love, but her love (as how you described it) is inrequited. Try to be happy for her; this way you will feel better about yourself.
You'll find other people who will make you feel as happy as she did. What I suggest you to do is to start getting over her. Try to keep your mind ocupied in other things that interst you. Also, take some walks around a park or a mountain. They will relax you.
I can't tell you if you're gay or not, but I see you as someone who just ended up loving someone of the same sex. A few clues to see if you're gay is by asking yourself "Do I see myself with a woman in a relationship?" "Do I feel sexually attracted to a woman?".
Hope this helps and good luck
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