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writes:I am 29 years old , works as a lecturer in institute , i am gay and i love my students who is 27 years old, he is always in my mind , i wait the class just to see him , but he seems to be straight and not even interested in me , he doesn't attend my classes regularly , when he looks at me he smiles , i dont know what his smiles mean ! i cant get him out of my mind and i cant even take an action . i am not out to my students and cant even express my feelings , i dont have the balls to talk to him or ask him if he is single or in relationship, it hurts me a lot to see him and cant do a thing and hurts more that the academic term is going to finish and he wont be my student any more ! as he is from a different major , if want to take a secure action what it would be like?? what should i do to know if he likes me or no , gay or not ! this is odd and sucks Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2011): I am almost 28... and I have just been dealing with a similar problem. I had a humongous crush on one of the students at the college where i was teaching.. the good thing is that he wasnt taking any of the courses i taught... but he was extremely gorgeous and i wanted him so bad. the thing though is that i also realised very quickly that there was so much at stake if i decided to make my feelings known to him or attempt to pursue him in anyway. So i decided to crush on him from a far... never making my feelings known to anyone... and just went on with life. I have since left that job and one of the very few regrets is that i never even had a short conversation with him. But then it would have been too risky... for my career and more importantly my reputation. point is: sometimes in life you have to let certain things/people go for the sake of the bigger picture.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (26 November 2011):
 You don't need me to tell you that a teacher over stepping the mark is completely out of order. You need to let him go, unless you want to lose your job and your career. He will be gone after the year is out and you can use the distance to move forward and do what you are there to do and that is teach.
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