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writes: I am in love with my friend who is married but I am afraid that if I say anything I could loose him as a friend. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2006): So by telling him you're in love with him, you want him to leave his wife for you? If not, what benefits will u get by revealing your emotions for him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2006): don't say anything and distance yourself. i bet you know that is what you should do. isn't that what you would tell someone else who is in your situation? i think so. there are plenty of other guys out there - find one who is single and can devote his time to you and who you know would respect his partner and devote all of his time to you (because if this guy cheats on his wife, shouldn't that be a warning sign for you, as well?)
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reader, Helen1986  +, writes (25 August 2006):
 I think that you should not say anything your friend is married and you should respect this. If you are finding it hard to remain friends with this man maybe you should keep your distance for a while so you can clear your head. It will be tough but it will be better in the long run. Good luck
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reader, layla +, writes (25 August 2006):
 i think if your friends married then you shouldnt say nothing i know this would be hard but i think that you are better of as keeping him as a friend. sorry. but good luck and be strong. xx
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reader, camille +, writes (25 August 2006):
 He's married, don't say anything. And do keep a check on what else is going on, as you may be saying a lot more in body language than perhaps you realize. Even if you suspect he's not happily married, it really isn't a good idea to do anything that may break his marriage up and then yes of course, there's the risk that you will lose him as a friend. Some men I know who have been told this, can maintain the friendship but I think being friends with someone you have feelings for is very difficult. The feelings may pass in time, but I hope you don't put yourself through any unecessary heartache.
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reader, b3x +, writes (25 August 2006):
 You need to think about the whole situation.
Sit down with a coffee (mocha my personal fav) :D
And take into consideration what you could actually cause if you told him.
He's married right? Which kinda means he's off limits! Does he have children? He's your friend and you don't want to lose that over a few feelings for him.
You have to imagine first what the concequences are, realisticly!
You don't want hassle from telling him you like him, what if he tells his wife? Things like this worry me, I just know most of the time something bad comes from it?
But then again, you've not given much info about your problem. He could be giving me you vibes that he likes you? He could be looking at you differently?
There so much you need to think about here before you go do something drastic!
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reader, bonym +, writes (25 August 2006):
 Trust me, dont say anything, dont jeopardise uyour friendship, its not worth it,nothing can happen whilst he is married. Dont tell him how you feel because it will ruin everything. Good luck. xxX
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