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36-40,
*onelywifewantsherhubby
writes:Dear Cupid,Gosh where do I begin. Well I have been with my husband for 5 years. Only been married a little over a year. I love my husband to death but I know he doesn't feel the same for me. Well he says he loves me but he never shows it, and I mean never as in he never touches me or holds me. We have 2 kids and he helps with them and we share time together but he is never lets say intimate. I mean we have our time together but I never feel love. But thats only part of it. My husband recently got a new phone with internet so he does everything on there, looks at porn ( which I ain't really worried about that). Has a myspace account ( ain't to worried about that because it does list him married there looks like nothing fishy going on). But then he is also on cell phone dating sites where you can text or call someone. He says it's nothing him just playing around on the internet. But it hurts because I got his password and I have read these messages to females that they look good and that he wants to talk to them more. He works night shift and I know that thats when he is talking to them. He even told one girl that she can't talk to him for 3 days. Didn't tell her why but I know why because he was off and I would be home. These girls live far away but I still am not happy with this and it hurts really bad. I have told him so much how much it hurts and he just turns the other cheek. I probably am the stupid one because he knows that I adore him no matter what. Like I always fix him his plate and bring it to him and get his clothes for him. I do all the house work, all the yard (for exception on ocassion he does yard work.), cook dinner and 95% time take care of the kids. I have absolutely no friends, except my kids. He helps me and gives back some but not nearly as much as me. Please I need advice. I would like marriage counseling but he says no!!Thanks
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reader, cumasoon  +, writes (28 October 2008):
I would say ask him what does he find so enjoyable on the sites that u dont have an tell him you willing to explore try new things with him not swinging and taht biut like toys or role play etc. Tell him you want to make it work and if all fails tell him to show you what he's doing cos you to want to do what he does cos it looks fun that should get him boiling then he might stop good luk
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2008): why are you doing everything for him? You simply cant expect respect when you treat him like a king and yourself like a slave....DEMAND he do 50% of everything and simply dont accept anything less....women who get treated with respect know that men need to be EXPECTED and required to do their FAIR share..and they simply wont accept anything less
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reader, tina888  +, writes (2 October 2008):
maybe you are very dependent on your husband and so he is seeking thrills elsewhere just for kicks...I think to make yourself interesting to any man...you need to be interesting. This is not very easy when you have young children and you cant get out.
Firstly, it would be good if you could make friends, through a mums and kids club perhaps...maybe you have some free time when you could get a little part time job. But it is also good to try to make yourself seem pretty and feminine....dont let him make you feel so bad about yourself..he shouldnt treat you like this, you owe it to yourself to be happy and not be mistreated...take good care of yourself
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reader, StudentOfLife  +, writes (2 October 2008):
 You may not speak his love language. I have a book for you if you're interested.
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