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writes:Hi, I'm a 23 year old woman, i'm married with a 2 year old daughter. i love my partner to bits and would never do anything to hurt him but i really fancy his brother, and i cant get him out of my head. I know this is wrong but i cant stop thinking about him, how i can get him out of my head? Reply to this Question
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (21 July 2008):
Well you are probably just hitting the stage where all you feel like is a "mummy" and you and your husband are too used to being around each other.
Give the kid to a grandparent and go out with your husband. Date him again, re-discover what it's like to be Sarah and Bob rather than Mummy and Daddy. You must have fancied him in the first place so you just need to re-discover that.
His brother is probably just a freer, less tired, child free version of your husband.
Really put your energy into looking at your hubbie and thinking about what you love about him. Spice things up and get a hotel room for the night.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2008): You would never do anything to hurt your husband, but you're lusting after his brother. If your husband knew what you were thinking he'd be deeply hurt, so in a way you're contradicting yourself. You're already cheating in a way, in your minds eye at least.
Every time you think about the brother, just imagine how hurt your husband would be if he could read your mind.
Maybe the two of you could go away for a weekend somewhere and leave the toddler with its grandparents. Looking after a young 'un all day every day isn't an easy job, so a change of scenery might concentrate the mind a little.
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reader, TheVirg  +, writes (21 July 2008):
I dont know anything about the joys of marriage yet but if I were to give any advice, find something, or imagine something about him that is unnatractive and focus on that, wether it be personality or physical. It helps keep me from thinking of other girls than my girlfriend.
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