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writes:I feel like I am completely unlovable as I am nothing but a big joke to everyone.They all constantly make fun of me, even more own girlfriend never takes me serious and has no respect for me nor my family, just because my dad was illegal.But he has all his papers now she still thinks he is a bad person and should be sent back to Mexico. I don't do anything to hurt anyone I rarely hate anyone I like to get along everyone but everyone just loves making fun of me and my girlfriend is acting like a total bitch just to get rid of me when all I have ever done is shown her love and respect But after her telling me nobody cares about me and what I feel about anything I'm starting to think its true I'll lose my girlfriend I already lost most of my friends I feel as if all I am is either a slave or a punching bag I know all of you will tell me to stand up for myself but it's a lot easier said than done Please I need help Why does everyone think of me as a door mat What can I do? I feel like nobody loves me.My own girlfriend says I am ugly and fat and not a man because I show my feelings to her and she calls me a pussy all the time.It annoys me but I don't get mad because it will just start an argument.I love my girl friend so much, but she always says my love for her is not real only because she said a friend of mine told her I didn't like her, when I do. I love the girl even though she makes me feel like s^^t but I love her to bits please help! What do I do!? Reply to this Question
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reader, countrylover0976 +, writes (12 November 2011):
Love is a very strange thing. Sometimes those people hurt you more than anyone else in the world. Words can hurt more than any type of physical abuse could ever due to you.Building confidence is not easy. If your friends are leaving as you say then they really aren't your friends in the first place. They are called "fair weather friends" - when the weather is "fair" they are all around, but when a few rain clouds come along - they scatter to find their own shelter, leaving you out in the wet, cold weather. Definitely NOT the kind of friends you need to have in your life. Start going to the YMCA or a gym during the week to work off your frustrations. You will start seeing results in your body as well as your mind. Some of the guys there are actually very cool to get along with and will have no problem speaking to you as a person, it will be minus the peer pressures you are facing currently.Self-confidence is a must in this world and only you can provide it. You may love this girl with all your heart but as Duck said above, you don't need to be a doormat any longer.
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx  +, writes (12 November 2011):
 I know (as even you said yourself) its easier said than done. But get rid of your girlfriend. From what you have said here she sounds vile, and even though you may love her greatly, your ovbiously going through a rough patch and she is set on making it 10x worse. Sometimes you have to wake up and realize that even if you love something its hurting you and you have to let it go. Heres an example, a guy has a monster and this monster is his bestfriend, however recently the monster has started biting him and randomly attacking him the guy knows if he keeps the monster despite him loving it it will eventually hurt him so bad he might not be able to recover.Just a small example of why sometimes you have just got to get rid of something because it isn't any good for you. As for people treating you like a doormat well ive been there and done that, people used to walk all over me and do you know why? Because i was too kind. It sounds stupid but because i was a kind person people would constantly take advantage because they new i would always forgive them. If you find it hard to stand up for yourself then you need to find another way to show them your not a doormat. Get confidence in yourself, focus on your good points as when you are confident it really stops people from attempting to walk all over you. If people say things to you just walk away or literaly tell them to get lost, even if it isn't a good come back they will understand your not going to let them walk all over you. Get stronger in yourself, and try and put on abit of a hard front, only show your nice caring side to people who deserve it or people who appreciate you, as when you show sometimes that your kind and caring to someone you have just met sometimes they see you as an easy targart. Good luck.
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