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writes: i think im in love with my female best freind!!!we have been friends for years but we have become close over the past few years. after one drunken night we kissed and got slightly passionate...now we are very very close and i love her with all my heart ...we now seem 2 get very intimate even when were not drunk it has made us closer but...i consider myself to be straight and she does aswell...but i love everything about her and constantly think about her and our very passionate moments!!! am i a lesbian i feel an attraction 2 men aswell but my friend comes first !!!
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reader, alexanderhan  +, writes (13 March 2011):
 be open with your sexuality and forget about labels. if you love her, you love her, there's nothing wrong with that
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2008): Don't worry about labels, just roll with it. I disagree that you need councelling! I think that you should just realise that there is nothing wrong with loving your best friend, forget about gender!! You're lucky to have found love, just go with it :-)
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reader, Dead Disco +, writes (17 July 2008):
I've been in this situation before too. Sometimes it is hard to tell the difference between an emotional connection with a lustful and romantic one. You and your friend are close and maybe you are mistaken your 'closeness' for something more. Kissing a friend does not always mean there is an attraction. I have kissed many of the same sex however, I have only loved one of them. Maybe you need to talk to your friend and see how each other feel. Your young this may be a phase. If you realise you like her, go for it, if she is a true friend she'll stick by you even if she doesn't feel the same way. :)good luck - you only live once so live life to the full
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2007): hi ive also been having the same problem as you.
me and my freind started out jsut freinds and we werent even that close. But then we starrted fighiting over everything even little things and then we realised we were hella close adn that the only reason we fought like this is becase we really care about each other and weve talked about it like why are we so close. You couls say were a lil touchy and act like lesbians but i dont think were les. i jsut think becasue were clsoe frineds its ok to touch ur freind sexually and still be straihgt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2006): i am a bisexual and i think u r 2. my first female date was me best frend at the end of it we kissed and had sex and started a club for lesbians. it is ok to feel like this there is nothing to be scared about.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2006): lol, ure not a lesbian if u like men aswell!That makes you Bi Sexual!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2006): ok, i will defintely have to say that i disagree with the last bit of advice given about counseling. counseling is not the way to figure yourself out when it comes to this. you've just got to try things out and see what you like. sure, one of you may get hurt, but we all learn and grow from life lessons. besides, i don't at all think that you're just in it for the sexual gratification. it's obvious that this girl means a lot to you. to the point where you feel that you may be falling in love with her. and that doesn't sound like pure lust or sexual gratification to me. coming from someone who realized that she was a lesbian, take my advice. just see where this goes. you two have these feelings for a reason and you should explore them. good luck with everything!
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reader, pink_day +, writes (14 August 2006):
 It could be that what you are experiencing are real "relationship" feelings and that you do feel "that" way about her, or it could just be that you are experimenting and trying this new things out. It is normal that two best friends feel close, but if you both consider yourself straight then you should maybe both back off a bit and just give yourself some time to sort out what your head is feeling. Don't think because you kiss a girl that you are automatically a lesbian. You could be, then again you could be bisexual or straight. All of these are totally normal and fantastic, exciting things to experience. You should really sit and have a chat with your friend and see what you both want from your relationship, whether you want a friendship or to be partners. Either way I wish you the best of luck in discovering yourself, please don't jump in to anything too deep without fully considering all your options and feelings first, otherwise you could end up hurt and so could your friend. Good luck xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2006): sounds to me like you're in love with this girl. whether that makes you a lesbian or not, who knows? but there are plenty of girls who feel that way. plenty of girls feel as though they fell in love with a girl, but would never feel that way towards another girl. it's just that special one. but i wouldn't be so quick to try and slap a label down on yourself yet, though. give yourself some time to figure yourself out, and take it from there. just be happy that you've found someone that makes you that incredibly happy and run with it. good luck!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2006): You could be young and confused. You can be exploring and finding out what you want and like. I don't think this is right in how to figure it out as committing to intamacies will hurt and confuse you and your gr more should it turn out that you decide you prefer men only.
Right now, you may be bi-sexual and like and prefer both sexes.
I am going to suggest getting some counseling to help you further reach inside of yourself for answers and to find out your path.
For some people, the gratification that sex brings is all that matters and will do and try anything that will give them the cravings of what sex can bring.
Careful. Seek guidance and counseling.
Good luck.
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