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writes:i'm in love with my cousin and dont know what to do. i've had feelings for her but never thought she would like me.i'm 16 and she's 16.one day i asked her out and she said yes but then she dumped me because she felt confused about it and said she wanted to try and ignore her feelings.the next day her mom read her txts and found out about the relationship and told my parents. luckily only they know but now its akward between her mom and my parents said if I do anything relationship like with her that i would be in serious trouble but now i have realized that i love her and that there is no one else for me. what should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2012): I guess it's beside the point to say that you could draw some negative remarks. You've already seen some. BUT don't feel bad about it. First cousin might be a bit close and there might be legal issues, but past that the biology is just about the opposite of what everyone is likely to tell you. At least you have an adult who is interested enough to look at the published information. That's luck.
The most prestigious sience journal is called SCIENCE and the published an artictle
An Association between Kinship and Fertility of Human Couples Agnar Helgason et al. SCIENCE vol. 329 no. 5864 February 8, 2008 page 813 - 816
You can get it for a few bucks from sciencemag.org. Since this is such an important issue, I'd suggest doing that and look it over with anybody you've spoken with. At least it might help make the peace.
There's a web site nobabies.net that follows the issue. It's not prestigious at all. It's one obscure person's thoughts and collection of reference. But it's FREE. And it's easy to get to.
All the best. Don't let anybody scold you on this. You're not feeling anything bad in the big picture. I think if you read the article you'll see what I mean.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (9 January 2012):
 You are only 16 you have plenty of time to fall in love. At the end of the day this is never going to work for the both of you unless you both completely abandon your families and run away together, now would you really ask her to make such a huge commitment and lose all her family? If you try and take things further it is going to cause huge upset to the whole family, and remember that is what she is, your family! You need to accept that this can never be and move forward. Drop contact with her for a while until you get over your feelings for her. Explain how deeply you feel about her to your parents maybe they can help you through it, but am afraid unless you want a lot of upset and unhappiness well then nothing is ever going to happen between the both of you. In some countries it is illegal to date your cousin.
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