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writes:When my boyfriend and I have sex. It usually is extremely amazing and leaves me breathless. However, lately, it's becoming like a routine, we have sex almost every day. But it's getting boring. I don't really get turned on by him anymore. Most of the time I have to fake it. He still seems like he enjoys it but I don't. I still love him and all, but I want enjoyable sex too. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, rivi  +, writes (7 February 2011):
Well what's changed exactly ?
You have to be specific.
Do you always use the same position ? You could try varying it.
Have you tried oral / anal ?
Maybe he feels pressured to do it every day......? Anyway you need to have it all in the open with him. But don't come across as blaming him or you might get him complexed and unable to get an erection --- then you might be sorry !
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reader, GhostChild  +, writes (7 February 2011):
 Try spicing things up, suggest new positions, roleplay etc.
If it starts becoming routine, then do things to change that routine. Try surprising him, wearing costumes even, or doing it in different places.
But like debsman said, maybe talk to him about it. Don't be mean and make it seem like he's not performing well any more or anything. Just say you want to try new things or make sex even more enjoyable for the both of you. Something like that.
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reader, debsman +, writes (7 February 2011):
Have you tried discussing this with him? If not, talk about it. Tell him how you feel, but don't sound like you're complaining. You might find communicating with him could help.
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