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writes:My girlfriend became a prostitute during our relationship. I knew about it but did nothing as she said she was feeling depressed and this helped. She made me feel bad about asking her to quit. I absolutely hated it. Its still eating me up inside even though she quit 2 months. I know i'm crazy for staying with her but I love her to bits and I know she loves me. Its just hard knowing she did it. Can someone advise me on what I could do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2011): I hope you protected yourself during this time from STDs and of course that she did too. Being a prostitute is not safe - including physically and this must have been hurtful for you to consider she was putting herself in this situation. I cannot understand any woman using it to be cheer themselves up - I think your girlfriend has some emotional issues to deal with and that you would both benefit from seeking counselling individually and perhaps as a couple if you wished. Whether you love someone or not they are not always right for you - love does not conquer all. If this issue for you cannot be overcome (and it would be completely understandable) then you need to move on amicably and be with someone else.
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reader, GhostChild  +, writes (7 February 2011):
 Just to clarify, while you were dating your girlfriend, she became a prostitute and began receiving payment in return for sex, and she expected to be okay with it because it makes her feel better?
It's good to support partners in their career decisions, no matter what it is for the most part, but when your girlfriend becomes a sex worker then it's a whole different story.
Talk to her again and tell her how you feel, let her know how deeply it affected you. She cheated on you and betrayed you, and she made you feel bad for even bringing it up. You have nothing to feel bad about.
Bring it up again, tell her how you feel, if she listens, then you two can start working through this time. But if she doesn't and she just throws it back at you and makes you feel guilty, then maybe you should reassess your relationship with her.
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reader, GhostChild +, writes (7 February 2011):
Just to clarify, while you were dating your girlfriend, she became a prostitute and began receiving payment in return for sex, and she expected to be okay with it because it makes her feel better?It's good to support partners in their career decisions, no matter what it is for the most part, but when your girlfriend becomes a sex worker then it's a whole different story. Talk to her again and tell her how you feel, let her know how deeply it affected you. She cheated on you and betrayed you, and she made you feel bad for even bringing it up. You have nothing to feel bad about.Bring it up again, tell her how you feel, if she listens, then you two can start working through this time. But if she doesn't and she just throws it back at you and makes you feel guilty, then maybe you should reassess your relationship with her.
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