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writes:im in love wit my best mates boyfriend and dont know what to do we have been best mates for 12 years but her boyfriend is soo nice 2 me hes told me he likes me and wants to be with me and i want to be wit him soooo much what will i do???
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reader, Mabel-x  +, writes (15 June 2008):
Hey
No matter how much you like this guy he is a no go zone...
It would be a big mistake i mean face it... if he was prepared to do this to your best friend he will probably be prepared to do it to you... I know you might be thinking yeah but i have known him longer than her and he isnt going to get with anyone else because he loves me.
But it wont work out like that.
Not only will you lose your best friend, You may also lose the guy. If you and your friend have any mutual friends they will not respect your decision either.
If anything you should despise him for even thinking about doing this to the girl he 'loves' and think what do i do.
You also have to think about whether you will tell your best friend or not as if he doesnt leave her for you he will leave her for somebody else.
Stick by my rule... Chicks before Dicks
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (1 June 2008):
 Good on you girl, you did the right thing :)
Take care and best wishes
xx
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reader, natashaxx +, writes (1 June 2008):
natashaxx is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the advice me and my mate had a chat today and i told her everything she has broken up wit him it dosent fell like the best thing i could have done i feel really bad but i know its for the best im neva gonna let a boy cum between me and my mates again...
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2008): You've got to pick which is more important to you:
either:
Your best friend of 12 years... That you know you'll have forever.. UNLESS you go out with this guy.
or
A guy that your in love... That it may or may not work out with.
Look, I doubt it will work between him and your best-friend because he prefers an other person...
They'll probably break up and when your best friend is over him, there may be some chance that she will give you and him her blessing.
My suggestion is that you wait.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2008): Well first, I would consider the fact that he is flirting with you and saying all these sweet things to you when he knows that you are his girlfriend's best friend, so what makes you think that he wont be so rediculously disrespectful to you if you were with him. He sounds like a dirt bag. I think that you need to decide who means more to you because if you were to start seeing him, there is a very good chance that that would end you friendship. Also, I think that maybe you should clue your friend in on what kind of guy her boyfriend really is before she ends up getting really hurt.
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reader, bubbloo24 +, writes (1 June 2008):
If you go out with this guy, you lose you best friend automatically.
If you go out with him, the entirety of the relationship will be that you will think that he still likes your best friend and she will probably try to get him back to get revenge on you and due to this:
You will break up, you will have no best friend and you'll wonder why the hell you went out with him.
You know what you have to do.
How do you know that he won't do exactly the same thing to you as he did to your best friend?
Don't you think you should be angry at him for planning to hurt your best friend? If it wasn't you he liked but some other girl and he was going out with your best friend, you'd be angry at him wouldn't you? But because it's you he likes it's a completely different story? wrong.
Do what you know is right - tell your best friend the truth about what he has said and both of you should stick together and ditch him. By going out with this guy you're just heading for a fall. If she doesn't believe you then so be it and she can find out for herself but your best friend needs you right now. She needs the truth.
I'm sorry that I've had to be blantant but from someone who's seen it happen to their friends one too many times, you need to realise what could happen.
Take care xx
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