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writes:i have been with my boyfriend for over 2 years now, I love him so much and couldnt imagine my life without him, hes amazing, he still makes me feel like we did when we were first together and now so much better!! weve had our rough times and weve come out of them only loving eachother more! But about 6 months ago now i made a new friend, hes a great laugh and weve become really close, we know most things about eachother, except for the way i feel about him, i've never told him that, or anyone else for that matter...i really dont know what to do, i can tell im falling for my friend, he makes me feel special and we have such a good time together, i feel for him what i felt for my boyfriend almost 2 years ago, ive even starting thinking about him during sex.My boyfriend has no issues at all with our friendship and me and my friend are going to london together in the summer and my boyfriend is the one who's making least fuss about the fact im going away with another boy i am close to and clearly flirt with all the time.Im really confused and just need some suggestions what to do!! thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2007): Firstly you can't have the best of both worlds. One day you will have to choose between one or the other. So think of it like this...would you rather stay with your boyfriend and make sure that the friendship that you have with this guy doesn't turn into romance or would you have a relationship with your male friend and lose your boyfriend? I know it's a hard choice to make but you have to choose one way or another.
P.S. how do you know for sure that your male friend feels the same way back about you? But remember, you don't have to stick with your boyfriend. Play the court if you like, after all isn't that the best thing to do before finding someone in which you want to settle down with?
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reader, agony_uncle_r +, writes (24 March 2007):
if you really love your bf then youll do all u can to make sure you stay with him, you kno ur falling for this guy, so distance yourself. dont put yourself in situations where your going to be burnt like being alone with him.
when you think something inapropriate of your friend remind yourself who it is you love... that or you leave your bf because wat ur doing is cruel
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reader, cd206 +, writes (24 March 2007):
 No boy is so deluded that he can't see what's going on. My guess it he's being cool with your friendship because he thinks that being jealous will push you away, while his lack of response to all of these things is making you feel, at least on a subconscious level, that he doesn't care about you. You need to make a decision here and nobody can help you with that. It's not fair on your boyfriend to be with him unless you're 100% commited to the relationship and it's not fair to be flirty with your friend if there's no chance that anything is going to happen.
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reader, livi +, writes (24 March 2007):
 Hey there,
Sounds like your in a bit of a pickle!
If you truly do prefer your boyfriend over this other guy then you need to let this other guy know this. Tell this other guy, you have a great boyfriend whom you love very much, and that no one can replace him. In other words you need to let this other guy know that nothing can ever happen between you two but you would like to stay mates becoz you enjoy his company.
Also, maybe you are spending far to much timewith him.
if you see someone every day then of coarse they are going to be on the brain.
Take some time off to be with your boyfriend, after all you love him and he deserves your undivided attention.
Good luck with it all : D
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