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writes: I saw someone post a question kind of like mine but a little different. I am going to be 20 in a few months. I have been with this guy for over months and he is living with me. We planning to get married next year. But for some reason my ex-boyfriend is always popping into my dreams and in my head and i see his new girlfriend and it kills me and my heart pounds and chest hurts bad. I was with him for over 3 years. Things ended because of fighting more then half the day, better yet all day and almost everyday. Not to mention his mother didnt like me after while. Called me a Stuck up Spoiled Princess. Yeah well,i dont know what is wrong with me, i'm in love with my boyfriend well fiance now but my ex is in my head and dreams all the time. sometimes i just want to cry. me being very depressed all the time i dont think helps. please someone help me with this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2009): HI FALLENANGEL08,
u might want to talk to your fiance and let him now whats wrong and maybe he can help u.... and by the way would ur fiance be THEBEAST.AKA.MR.BOMB cause he has a post on her a bout the same problem regardin his fiance???? well anyways just talk to him and let him know that u care and stuff listen to him u guy go to a movie or something or go to a park,or something fun and talk get away from everything and as for ur ex if u faught all the time and stuff like that then y think about him and really was he nice to you or mean to you thats one thing u need to think about and really if you like ur new b/f &/or fiance then dont worry about him and who he is with ok well i hope i was alot of help and stuff take care and let us all now the out come.....
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reader, THEBEAST.AKA.MR.BOMB +, writes (3 May 2009):
hello i have the same problem her to i have been with this girl for 6 mounths now and i love her to death and she is the most wonderful thing to me and actually she is my feiance but she is always depressed and always pushes me away i want to wrk things out with her but she wont take the time to talk to me ive had alot of other posts on her about my feelings and trying to get help about it but i havnt got nothing yet i wont to make her feel so good but but i dont know wat to do her mom really puts alot of stress on me and it is just relly rough on us and me and her mom get in to it alot... i dont want to fight with her but she wont take time to understand me and listen to my fellings i really love her to death i just really wish she would open up and talk to me and i think mine has a lot of thought about her ex wich she was with for 3 years and they faught all the timeand then we met and he left and hes with someone else now so i dont know what to do....
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2009): Okay, firstly I would say that it probably is not a good idea to marry your boyfriend, not while you are still torn up over your ex. Please think through it carefully, don't jump into any major decision like that.It sounds like the relationship you had with your ex wasn't a very good experience, yet you can't stop thinking about him. You clearly still have deep feelings for him, because from what you described you are in a lot of pain over him. I'm sorry you are hurting so much.I recently gave advice to someone in a similar situation, and I recommended trying to focus on all of the reasons why the relationship didn't work, what went wrong, all of the bad times, etc. Just as a way of reminding yourself why you broke up in the first place, and why you are better off apart. But I'm not sure if this will be enough to help you. You say that you are very depressed, and that will make everything feel so much worse, including the situation with your ex. If you feel that bad, I recommend seeing your doctor, and getting help for how you are feeling. There is help available, and you can feel better. Once you start to feel better within yourself, you will probably find that you are able to move on from your ex.I hope things improve for you, take care. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2009): I know exactly how you feel. After breaking up with my boyfriend after being with eachother for 2 years I still am not over him. I found it difficult to be with my other boyfriend then after him coz he was always in my head. But after the way he treated my I told myself that I deserve better. In your case, you have found better! You have something really good and shouldn't let it be spoilt by your ex, instead you should concentrate on your fiancee. Why dont you talk to your fiancee about this? Or make a list on all the bad things your ex did and all the good things your guy does.
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