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writes:Background story: I have been dating the same guy for two and a half years, with ups and downs and we've broken up once, in which I cheated on him. In theory I have always been happy with him as a friend, in fact there have been more times than not in our relationship that I have felt like he is more of a friend than my romantic interest, like there isn't much of a spark. And I know that should be my answer, that things wouldn't work out later on. But I don't want to lose his friendship and companionship. I like having him as a friend. And I love him but I'm not in love with him. We used to live together in the city a year ago, and it was ok, I was just too young to be settling down. He wants me to go with him to the city again in September, and he pushes this on me. Recently he bought me a huge canvas painted poster of Audrey Hepburn and said it would look nice in our place in the city... Which made me like it less because it seemed like it had the decision made for me to move again.If I know that I love him as a friend what would your advice be to let him down easy?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2013): I was with someone for about 5 years an he was my best friend, I wasn't in love with him but I did love him a bit like yourself. I'd tell you, if your not 100% happy then you should do both of you a favour and tell him how you really feel and move on. It's scary to be on your own though after being with someone for so long but it will be the best thing for you. It will only get harder for you and eventually you will end up hating him like I did with my ex. Good lck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2013): You are hurting yourself and him by living a lie. No matter which way you go about it you may hurt his feelings. You have no choice but to be honest and sit him down and tell him exactly how you feel or just suck it up and continue the lie.
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