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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I'm almost 30 and i've never been in a long term relationship. Actually if honest i've not really been in a proper relationship either. The closest i came was a guy i saw every day for 8 months who was my absolute best friend (he adored me and I him) but at the time i was terrified of men in the sense of sex. I couldn't allow myself to get close to him though he would have married me if i'd encourage more. He was my boyfriend and yet wasn't. At the time though he was my everything. I just wasn't overly attracted to him but i so wanted to want him, he was perfect. I was comfortable with him. I would have been safe in his arms forever and he would have made a fab father/husband. But my insecurities and the fact i wasn't attracted made me push him away. I've had a few people interested in me briftly since mainly for thw wrong reasons, which is why i now also have a darling child that i'm raising on my own. It's ironic cos the perfect man for me seems to actually be my child, haha.Is there something wrong with me not to have had a proper stable relationship at this point? Would you see it as a problem? Am i too much baggage for someone to take on with my insecurities, relationship inexperience and a child too? I am working on my insecurities but honestly i'm not sure how to find a man especially as i'm limited with a young child around. Anyone got on advice on how i can meet a man whilst childcare limited? Also if i find a man, what should the relationship look like? What should it be? I could use all the help i could get x
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2013): There's nothing wrong with you at all. My mother always said when the time is right, it will happen. I used to be like "yeah right, whatever". But I do believe it.
I met my first boyfriend in my late teens and we were together for 6 years and thought I would end up marrying him, but it wasn't meant to be.
I met my Fiance when I turned 30, before I didn't really want to get into another serious relationship but I met him and it felt right. I was his first serious relationship, he had relationships before but nothing serious. To me it's special that I was the first girl his family met.
I would personally relax and that old cliche it will happen when you least expect it - well I totally stand by it now.
Good Luck x
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