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He treats me like his cook and cleaner! I love him very much but just don't seem to be getting anything back...

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Question - (7 August 2007) 5 Answers - (Newest, 10 August 2007)
A female United Kingdom age 41-50, *ek01 writes:

hi there i have been in a relationship for 2 yrs i met him as i had just split with my ex husband i have 2 children and he has 1 he is currently in the army and i only see him on weekends but when he comes home he totaly disregards me and it doesnt even seem as if im here its like he only wants me to cook and clean for him , he takes his child out and doesnt invole me at all and if i ask if we could do something toghether he tells me no he cant be bothered , my children dont live with me by theyr choice, he doesnt kiss or cuddle me anymore either im a bit torn as what to do as i do love him very much but dont seem to be getting anything back from him thankyou .

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2007):

He has an unpaid housekeeper in you - and apparently that's all he wants. Tell him if you're going to cook and clean for him, he should pay you a wage - or you're outta there!

What's there to love about this man who gives you nothing?

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A female reader, bek01 United Kingdom +, writes (7 August 2007):

bek01 is verified as being by the original poster of the question

i would like to say thanks for your input and it just makes me think more about the relaionship hearing other ppls opinons .x

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2007):

Tell him exactly how you feel. Give him a time limit (in your mind) to change his attitude. Have a contingency plan in place during that time in case he doesn't change by your deadline. That way you will build your confidence in yourself. Whatever happens if he cannot be bothered then quite frankly neither can you.

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A female reader, Beckto United States +, writes (7 August 2007):

Beckto agony auntI suggest having a very serious talk with him. Tell him basically what you just posted here. If he can't be "bothered" to try and fix things with you, then I would seriously consider moving on. It sounds like you're being used.

Good luck.

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A female reader, hlskitten United Kingdom +, writes (7 August 2007):

hlskitten agony auntHi

That would drive me nuts too. You're suppose to feel happier being with someone, not used.

First off i would sit down and talk to him, explain how you feel, its your right. secondly, then decide what you want. If you feel you're a convenience rather than someone he values for the right reasons i wouldnt hang about too much longer if i was you.

Life can be so much better.

Good luck

C xxxxx

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