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writes:hi. i'm with the loveliest bloke i've ever met, but he's just turned 40 and i'm 22... i wish this wasn't a problem but in reality it is. i have no intention of splitting wiv him coz we love each other so much, but how do i overcome the problems yet to come? he's had the snip but is willing to get it reversed as he would love us to hav our own family (he's got 2 boys) but the op is £3k and may take 2 yrs to get back into action. by the time we save the money and wait he'll be at least 43 and i'll be 25, i just don't want to be on my own when i'm in my late 50's or 60's! its really upsetting. is anyone else going thro this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2008): hi, im 22 and im in love with a guy who is 40 problem is, he's my aunts husbands cousin, who are both the same age. weve been together before but im not sure if its worth trying. i know my aunt and uncle wouldnt like it an my oldest brother of the same age who is close to him aswell wouldnt like it either. but i love him what am i suppose to do? so if you have the opportunity to be with your man then take it because for me, one minute of hapiness with him would be worth spending a lifetime without...
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reader, naomiQT  +, writes (13 December 2007):
hi there iam 22 my boyfriend just turned 45 yesterday. i feel the same thing esp. when it comes to having kids etc id hate to be a single mum, but at the end of the day i honestly beleive i would sacrifice that opportunity to be with him.
We have a wonderful time together so i try not ruin it by thinking of what could or could not happen. all that is going to happen is iam going to love him more! we should all be enjoying this precious time with our men because we never know what will be around the corner...
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2007): I am 21 my partner is 45, i couldnt be with anyone else. We have talked about age how it will affect us in the future and with our familys, we havnt decided how to approach this yet, but it is a small worry.
Irish said it right though girl, enjoy what youve got while you have it, and later down the track you will have some great memories...
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reader, sweetheart1nonly  +, writes (10 November 2007):
I agree with what everyone else has said to take life just as it comes everyday. I am 18 turning 19 and in love with a 35 yr old guy. He looks much younger and acts younger but sometimes I think if we eventually get married how would life be for us when we get older, but why worry about tomorrow when we still got today to live on and most importantly, what matters is love. One could marry someone the same age and as soon as they get married, accident could happen or something else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2007): Hi,
I have a similar dilema. Im 22 and my guy is 41. I constantly worry about the future..but dont want to split from him because of the age difference. I also worry about what my friends and family think...
Some days it doesnt bother me then all the sudden it hits me - When im 50 my guy will be 70. The others are right though - anything could happen between now and then... Take each day as it comes hun x
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2007): hi. im 21 in a few days time and am with a 60 yr old man, i never thought when i was growing up i would end up with a older guy. i usually liked them around my age. But when me and my partner met we clicked instantly. he is my everything. we have been together since i was 17 and our love gets stronger every day i dont know what i would do with out him, i sometimes think, will i end up alone in the future but u could get hit over by a bus tomorrow so why not enjoy life? would you rather be with a guy your own age and unhappy or with someone who forfills your needs, hopes and dreams?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2007): I think a lot of people go through this dilemma , hun. You love this guy and you want a future with him. You two have many wonderful years ahead of you. Try your best to be strong, think rationally and not to allow this, to get to you. Life is a one shot deal and sometimes when we find people to love, we grab it and go with it, irregardless of the risks. Have you ever thought? You could go before him. I sure hope not, but my point is, we don't know what life will throw at us, do we? If he's a healthy guy and looks after himself now, he could live to a ripe old age. Medical strides are made everyday, people are living longer and living healthier lives. Try to think positively about this. Just enjoy the love you have with him, and live the happiest, most awesome life with him. Try not to think this way..it will just keep getting you down in the dumpsters and who wants to live their life, always fearing the worst. Take it one day at a time, hun and just .........be happy
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