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*amsentbyheaven
writes:My boyfriend and I broke up 7 months ago but I still love him. When we hang out he'd tell me he loves me still but now that he has a new girlfriend, he can't just leave her and be with me. But he keeps telling me that he's happy with me and he just doesn't want to hurt this girl so he keeps being with her.I love him, should I just let him go or hold on? He says he still loves me
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (2 March 2008):
 Most men are fence sitters when they love two women. They try to maintain the situation as long as they can.
You have got to make the decision for him if he is incapable of making any.
You will be in my thoughts.
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reader, iamsentbyheaven +, writes (2 March 2008):
iamsentbyheaven is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you so much to all who advised me. I have thought of it so deeply. I talked to him and told him that I cant see him anymore. I told him he has got to give me a chance to move on and find another love. For as long as I see him, I will never get over him. He doesn't like the idea at first but after a while he finally agreed.
He said that I will not hear from him anymore until he has broken up with his gf and all will be fine for us. I said that it's the best thing to do.
The thought of this really left me broken. He really chose to hurt me than hurt this new girl. But I gotta do what I gotta do. Im really praying to get over him. Please include me in your prayers that I get myself together and hopefully find true love again.
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (2 March 2008):
When you are in love, you lower your defenses and you can easily get hurt.
That is the price we pay for love.
Sometimes to get what you want , you need to walk away.
If the old does not give way , the new cannot come.
Think positive and life will get better.
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (1 March 2008):
 hey hun, well i dont know how to say this without sounding harsh - but he is playing you. he is having his cake and eating it too, and knows that you will end up getting hurt! think about his gf - how do you think she would feel if the man she was with was cheating on him? how would you feel if he was doing this to you wen you were together? you need to consider the fact that you are not the only person who is going to get hurt. if you are comfortable being the other woman and being with someone who will never full commit to you - then thats fine. but if you are not ok with that, which my guess is you are not - tell him that he needs to decide wat he wants to do. he says he doesnt want to hurt the other gf - but come on, he is a big enough boy to know that wat he is doing is completely wrong.
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reader, iamsentbyheaven +, writes (1 March 2008):
iamsentbyheaven is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you soooo much for the advice Sexkitten69 and Laura1318!! For a while I was ok with his two timing because he really sounded sincere when he tells me he loves me and just didn't want his new gf to be hurt if he leaves her. But then months have passed and he seemed not to have any plans of splitting up with this new girl. It seemed like I can only have him back if this new girl initiates the split up. I'm so heartbroken.
Take care too! and thank you so much.
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reader, SexKitten69  +, writes (1 March 2008):
 Hi hunn,
I totally agree with Laura1318 on this, He is wanting too much.
If you can accept it then fine but otherwise why wait around for someone who may hurt you by doing this behind your back....
Take Care, Please Rate :)
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (1 March 2008):
If you can accept his two timing, then hang on.
If you cannot , then give him a time frame to decide who he wants. Either you or she.
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