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writes:Right ive wrote this problem out times before but ive never got an answer im happy with and what i could do ill tell you the basics of my problem. Theres a boy who i like and have liked for 2 years we've been out in the past and done things(sexually) after we split up. He says he likes me and the next day doesnt want to do things with me and it gets me really upset and then he says he doesnt fancy me anymore but said he did at the time. He has said he hasn't used me but he has also said he has. When i go round to his house I usually leave early because he is abusive and i cant be botherd with it and it hurts. It used 2 be a mess about play fight thing but its serious and i keep getting hurt ive told him i don't want to do it anymore but he still does it and ive asked him why he does it and he says "because i feel like it". I love this boy LOADS! . Ive never been in love before just with him I may be a teenage girl but belive me i know what love is. He is now saying he doesn't fancy me and he used me but were like best friends we have LOADS! in common and we like to do the same things. We suit we really do but he just doesn't choose to see things that way otherwize he would be with me. Also one of his best friends is really controlling she doesnt like me being with him and she accuses me of taking him off her so she would probably fall out with the boy if he was ever to get with me. We havnt done things together since a few months ago I really miss him alot i really want to be with him but he treats me wrong. You may all say get over him the thing is.. i cant im with him all the time hes like my best friend i cant give that up please help? Give me tips on how to make him come 2 me. Or to help me win him over. Anything. Please.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2007): I'm feeling your pain right now because it can be really hard when you love someone and they keep on hurting you in different ways. You say that you have not got an answer your happy with but no matter what anyone say's right now is not going to be good enough until you get the boy you love. I'm wondering how much more pain you are willing to put yourself through before you realise that you are special and only deserve a boy who can return the same feelings. Anyone who hurt's you phsically and mentally will eventually destroy the beautiful YOU. Sometimes in life we want something so badly that we forget that everyone is allowed to make choices and right now this boy is making a choice and your refusing to accept it. Take time and love yourself and you will see that love will be returned.
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reader, love-him +, writes (1 July 2007):
 Youve never got an answer ur happy with? its not our fault babe wer tryin 2 help..Babe the fact he is abusive towards you should be enough to tell u to leave him alone. he has used you, and is still denyin it. he doesnt deserve u babe. mail me if u wanna talkx x x x x x
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reader, bovvalicious +, writes (1 July 2007):
 I think the best thing for you to do is to just back off abit because im sure you wouldnt like to be the reason 2 friends fall out. You cant make him love you or fancy you he has to do this on his own and if he doesnt there isnt much you can do but learn to accept it everyone gets there heart broken at least once
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reader, lari8 +, writes (1 July 2007):
Im sure that you have heard all the usual stuff before, like "get over him" and "you are still young" but honestly- he dont sound like a best friend! All these things that you have in common are probably things he liked that you have gone along with. I dont know about you, but I find it really hard to do anything sexual with a bloke unless I fancy him. The thing is, guys dont have that problem- most would do anything/say anything just to get into your pants and the way he says that he dont fancy you, then when you do do something sexual he says that he does, really shows that he is giving you the gift of the gab and dosent fancy you at all.But, if you want advice to get him then, stand back. Show him what he is missing.... dont make him jelous because thats too obvious, just stand back and hang with other friends for a couple of weeks and let him miss you.Personally tho, he sounds like a jerk!!!
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