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writes:So there's this boy I've been talking to him since a year now. We really really love eachother so much ! We went through many things lately this year but we couldn't let eachother go! We always stood next to eachother and felt ourselves confident when we were hanging out! However, the biggest problem is my mother. She doesn't want me to have any close relationship with him. She only wants him as my friend and not more. She even doesn't want me to see him, but I can't help it I can't let him go and he doesn't want it either! He always tells me whatever happens his heart will always belong to me!My mom won't understand that he's a good guy and will take care of me more than she will or does ! I've tried to talk to her and make her calm down but I couldn't succeed!Please guys I want your help ! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI don't know :/
I leave everything on God... After all he knows what's the best for me :/
Anyways thanks for your help !:) I really appreciate it !
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2012): Maybe it's the age difference between you two...parents nowadays are overprotective specially with the horrible things happening in the world. Try and communicate with your mother calmly and discuss the idea and tell her how you feel and what you want her to do... if things don't work out try and discuss it with your father and other people that could help. If nothing works out let go of him.. at the end you will either find you way back to each other or you weren't meant to be together maybe someone else in the world is dreaming of you wanting to be with you. Life is short, you should really live your life to the max and never let any moment pass by. Hope i helped ! Good luck in life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTo tell the truth, my mom gives importance to education and I agree with her... And this guy didn't graduate school... Maybe it's because of that... But he isn't a stupid guy..lf he was, I wouldn't talk to him from the first place... But I don't know :/ I tried to stay away from him several times but it's not working ! Though I'm not doing anything behind my mother's back, but I don't want to stay this way forever :/
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (23 April 2012):
 OK, OP, thanks for the clarifications, but then, if it's not your young age, or your level of maturity, or the way he treats you... then I think there must be a specific reason why your Mom dislikes him. Apparently, your Mom is not overprotective, and trusts you, so she does not hate ALL boys in general to be with you, just this one : Why ? Did she tell you ? What's wrong with him ( in your Mom's eyes ) ? Why all these people tried to break you up ?... Not to butt into your businees, OP,;) and if you don't want to share these infos it's fine, but if you want more practical answers , I guess we need some background.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionCindy I don't blame my mom for not accepting him,I know I may be young for love, but nobody can feel my feelings.. I can't explain them to anyone! And I'm not an immature 15 year old girl and my mom trusts me... And about the "we went through many things" I meant that so may people tried to do many bad things just to seperate us so that they'll be happy seeing us not together and I've got hurt alot and so many other things...
Bernard you have a point ! What you said is really right :/
Anw thank you guys! You tried to help me and it means alot to me :)
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (22 April 2012):
I think maybe your mom does not want you to get too attached to any guy, at your age 13 -15 . It sounds counterintuitive, but that's NOT the age for putting men centerstage in your life and be obsessed with thoughts of romance. What, and who, seems so perfect and important today may become totally irrelevant next year .
I am also a biy suspicious of all " you've gone through together " in the past year. What do you mean exactly, and what is there really, to " go through together " at your age. You have no kids, no responsibilities, you live at home... the course of love should be very smooth sailing.
It's very different if you mean that you had, say, deaths in your family and you have been there for each other , ... or, as I strongly suspect, if you refer to drama, arguments, jealousy, teras, breaking up and making up one hundred times...
That would be to a girl your age the markers of true passion, your mom knows better and knows they are the markers of something that's not working and she does not want you see wasting time and emotions on it, and most of all does not want to see treated by a guy less than perfectly and unreproachably.
Take a good, hard, objective look at this guy and at your relationship , and see if there is something that would be a red flag for a caring parent. Maybe then your mom won't sound so stubborn and unreasonable. Or, if really theer are no red flags, you can prove her that by rational argumentation backed up by FACTS- not just your emotions in turmoil.
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