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writes:I really need some help and advice about my boyfriend, we've been dating on and off for four years now and I'm not even eighteen yet. I love him ever so much and I couldn't live with out him! but over the past two years things have been really crazy. I'd been experiencing strange happenings in his house, waking up with bruises scratches both of us acting erratically. Sometimes we'd hear crying or screaming at night. Everything was freaky last year but at least he was scared too. The noises in his house stopped and I was so relieved that nothing physical had happened either of us. It was only a few months of everything being normal before my boyfriend started acting weird! He gets angry so quickly, is really obsessive and always accusing me of things and picking fights. He's had night terrors for a while now and last night he was having a sexual one that woke me up there was sweat everywhere, something made me speak .It's like words came out of my mouth with out me even meaning them to, and before i knew it we where both standing up at about 3:45 am.He was screaming and pushing me telling me he hates me and he used horrible names to describe me. Saying how he doesn't love me. He sometimes flips into these moments while he's awake too, he's physically abused me numerous times now but he never remembers. His pupils dilate like crazy when these episodes happen and it looks like he's about to explode! We have had a very happy loving nurturing relationship besides these episodes. But he's starting to get dangerous he almost convinced me to drown myself one time.I'm really scared, and want to know if there's something wrong in his head? He never remembers his dreams, they're always nightmares and he doesn't remember his actions.He also blanks out mid way a conversation. please help! thanks :( Reply to this Question
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reader, Abella  +, writes (14 October 2012):
 I think your boyfriend has some serious mental health issues. Visit your doctor alone first if it is easier. Exlain all the symptoms. I think you are in danger as his behaviour is becoming more erratic.
He desperately needs a Mental Health assessment but may be resistant to this
That is why you need to speak to a Doctor.
Can you speak to your parents to assist you in this?
If parents are not an option then the Doctor will know what to do and how to handle this problem
Without proper Medical supervision and treatment it is likely that he will only get worse.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (14 October 2012):
 This is a highly dangerous situation for you to be in, you need to get out IMMEDIATELY. He has mental problems that you are not equipped to deal with. I'm not sure if they're purely biological issues (bipolar, schizophrenic, etc...) or if he is suffering from having been abused or something earlier, but regardless of why this is an incredibly dangerous situation to be in. He physically abuses you and has frightening "episodes" where he is completely out of control. What happens if he becomes even angrier some day? He tried to convince you to kill yourself, what happens if he tries to kill you himself?
You need to tell your parents what is happening so they can help you get out and stay safe. Tell them before you tell him. If you break up with him in private he might snap. You do not want to stuck with a mentally ill man who is now very angry with you when there is no one else around. Tell your parents first so they can help you get out. If it's absolutely not possible make certain you have all your things out of the house (without him knowing) and take him someplace public with many people around, or break up over the phone.
Your safety is your number one priority here, he is an abusive unstable person and you are not safe with him.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (14 October 2012):
 where are your parents... why aren't you with your parents why are you sleeping nightly with this boy...
he needs to see a professional this is too much for you to handle.
where are his parents... how old is he?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2012): I'm not saying he's a bad person by the way. Maybe something's happened in his life that has left trauma deeply embedded in his subconscious, Nonetheless, he sounds dangerous and it wouldn't be wise to be around this guy unless he seeks professional psychological help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2012): You need to leave him and he needs to see a mental health team! He does sound unstable, and unpredictable, and it sounds like something from a horror movie. You don't want to risk not waking up one morning because he's stabbed you to death in the night, or you end up in hospital because he's seriously harmed or attempted to murder you.
Also, have you ever had any concerns about your own mental health? Its just with you saying he's unstable and hears strange noises in the night that wake him up terrified, but you also said you heard them and they woke you up scared too. He has night terrors, that's most likely accountable for his sleep disturbances, but what about yours you described?
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