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writes:I am happily seeing someone and I don't find him physically attractive, in fact I find him rather ugly. I recognise this and accept this and am still very much in love with and attracted to him.People make jokes and say that he is ugly and they worry it will offend me but I just agree with them; he is.And yet I can't, even by just writing, express how much I love him.Most people shouldn't care about appearances, but does the fact that I do make me extremely shallow?I honestly love him so much, but I'm confusing myself and I worry about it having a negative effect on our relationship. It's such a stupid thing to worry about, and I'm annoying myself over it. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2011): Relationships dont work unless there is some sort of physical attraction. Eventually you will find yourself pulling away from him because you feel gross having sex with him, etc. No matter how much you care about him and love his personality, there has to be physical attraction. Just my thoughts.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (3 May 2011):
 if you love him even if he's ugly you see his beauty... or you should.
best example comes from my life now:
I met a man who's personality made me crazy hot for him... his looks... eh... physically not my type... not ugly but not attractive to me... and I not his type and he found me unattractive as well.
Fast forward six months... I think he's adorable now and he thinks I'm the most beautiful woman in the world.....
if you love him but see him as ugly and are embarrassed by this I would strongly suggest a re-evaluation of what love is.
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