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writes:I have a history with this guy and I've never stop loving him. Its been approximate 2 years that I've loved him none stop even though there's been parts where I've hated him. I went through a period where I couldn't stand him but whatever the matter he was always special to me.At first I found him extremely attractive but problem is now I just don't get that same feeling towards him.I feel like I'm crazy in love with him and cant forget him no matter how much i try cause we have so much history.But now( I'll be honest, i know this sounds harsh)I think he's absolutely UGLY.Is this normal?Like when he leans in to kiss me, I cringe.I admire him so much and love being with him but something isn't the same as before.Its like he isnt the same guy I fell for.I don't know who I am in love with, the guy i fell for 2 years ago or this stranger? But I'm still in love so I guess that's okay then .. ?Sometimes he's still sexy but there are times when I hardly recognize him. Is there something wrong with my sight or is this something more serious? Am I shallow? Help please!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2009): yea it happens...you know absence makes the heart grow fonder..when we are having problems with our crush and it seems its so hard to get them, u would neglect all their bad points and idealize them..its like giving them credit for something they are not..but once you are in a relationship you realize the way you looked at them has changed...you start seeing the minus points also..you love him because of the history you share with him...but just think if for once you forget that history and consider you have met him just now, is he the type of guy would date?
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reader, A1exander123 +, writes (22 November 2009):
You CAN love someone while thinking they're ugly, but if you really love them, you'd stay with them because of their personality, not because of their looks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2009): We are all "shallow" in the sense that we have preferences. To me it sounds like you love this boy but not the same way as you did before. The feelings are still there but you are not attracted to him anymore. End the relationship, you shouldn't feel like you have to force yourself to kiss him. If he's unattractive to you, stop dating him.
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