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writes:Dear cupids, I'm hoping someone can help me out here and maybe give some opinions on what I should do.I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year and a half now. He has been my only serious relationship and I really care about this guy a lot. He means a lot to me.Although I love my boyfriend a lot, I feel like I am not happy in my relationship with him anymore. I feel stressed out a lot and I have not been happy for a long time now.I will try and explain why I don't feel happy in the relationship anymore.My boyfriend is a huge hardcore gamer and it takes up a lot of his time. I am being serious when I say my boyfriend is on the computer almost 24/7. He is 23 and is not working right now or going to school or anything. He is either partying with his friends, or on the computer gaming and talking with people. I am also concerned and worried a lot about the girls he talks to and meets through gaming. And I hate to be so mean about it, but it's the truth. Another thing is his friends. Now, I really hate to talk bad about his friends because we do get along and they are nice, but they are just like my boyfriend. They also are always gaming, don't work, and seem to just not care about their future or anything except the internet. They are always asking my boyfriend to game with them or go out and party. They can just be really annoying and honestly, they are very immature guys.Another thing is my boyfriends best friends girlfriend.She doesn't like me at all, and is mean to me. Like really mean to me. She is always starting drama with me and starting rumors about me, it never ends with her. And I have to deal with this girl all of the time. I mean is this really worth dealing with?Something else that has just really put me down is a break up me and my boyfriend had. A couple of months ago, my boyfriend unexpectedly broke up with me saying he doesn't feel the same about me anymore and that he wanted to move on with his life. I was really hurt, but accepted it and went in no contact mode with him for about a month. After that month, we started talking again and got back together. Not only am I still not completely over the fact that he dumped me the way he did, I also fear that he will dump me again at any time. I'm just really stressed out and not happy at all guys. I love this man a lot, I really do, but I don't feel happy in this relationship anymore. It's really stressful for me. This guy has been the only guy I have ever loved and trusted. I'm not sure if breaking up with him will make me happier or not, I really just don't know anymore. What should I do?
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reader, Laura L.  +, writes (8 April 2013):
You don't deserve to be treated like this.
And first and top of the all, if you are not happy with your relationship now for obvious reasons, you'll never be.
I suggest conversation with him first, ask him about his plan for future, about your life as a couple and if you still after his answers feel down and not satisfied at all, tell him that you do care and love him but need your own path without him in your life.
Don't be afraid to be single.
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reader, jadedpearl +, writes (8 April 2013):
 I think you should break up with him. Why stay with him if you aren't happy? You cannot continue like this if you are truly miserable. It sounds like your boyfriend has a lot of growing up to do. Reality will hit him hard when he is 30 years old and has not accomplished anything for himself. Why do you want to be with someone like this? You may love him and care about him, but is he really worth sacrificing your happiness?
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