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female
age
26-29,
anonymous
writes:It's Sunday night. On Thursday, I broke up with my boyfriend of 1 year and 1 month. I had been thinking about it for a while, and I thought it was what I wanted. I tried breaking up with him on the Wednesday, face to face, but he was begging me for another chance, and I felt like I was only saying yes out of guilt. So, the next day, I did the shallow "break up online" thing, since I couldn't face seeing him like that again.After that, I couldn't stop crying. I wouldn't eat, I wouldn't drink, I just slept, cried and hated myself. I felt like I was the one who had been broken up with.I really, really regretted my decision. Just looking back on all of our memories, I couldn't believed I'd let it all go. Yes, he was sometimes inconsiderate, and put his friends first, sometimes didn't treat me as well as he could have done, but looking back, I would put up with it all to be with him.I went on a walk with him a few days later to tell him how I felt. I know it wasn't a great idea, but I couldn't stand it.I told him I regretted everything, and we cried together.He said he still loved me, but he was scared of getting back together in case it didn't work out and we just ended up even more heartbroken. So we agreed to be friends.Since then, we've been texting as friends, but I still miss him so much. I still love him more than anything, and I can't even begin to describe how much I hate myself for letting go of him like that.But considering his feelings, is it for the best that we stay apart? Please help me, I'm really lost and upset, but I only want the best for him, so please, Aunts, help me on this. Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2013): Have a think about why you decided to breakup, Is that reason still valid? If it is, it's time to move on. It would be impossible to be just friends with someone who still wants you desperately. You are still very young and it may be you still need to play the field a bit longer. I wish you all the best. Ralph.
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