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writes: My bf joined the army recently and I really don't like it. I'm still quite young and don't want to be in a relationship that is so serious. I have been with him for 2 and a half years and he left 7 weeks ago. I am really not happy with the situation but I know I love him. I would be so hurt if he wasn't in my life any more.The problem is I am having trouble dealing with him going. No matter how much I try, I can't accept what he has chosen to do. I actually feel quite hurt that he has chosen to do something that means we never get to see each other. Maybe I feel like this because I'm still young and immature. I'm trying to accept it but I have failed miserably. Please help me coz I really don't know what to do. xXx
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reader, mjmoonwalker89 +, writes (23 July 2006):
 i know how you feel!!!!!!! me and my bf weren't together for two and a half years but he joined the army. the way i see it is that if it's something that he wants to do then support him as it lets him grow as a person. it wont be forever! it hasnt necessarily separated you.. sometimes time apart can make you stronger. i find it hard but when you're together sometimes it will be worth it. good luck xxx
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reader, Jadzia1127  +, writes (12 July 2006):
 This type of separation anxiety is a hard thing to deal with even with years of marriage. A girlfriend has nothing, if something happens she won't even be contacted unless his parents decide to contact her. It makes the anxiety twice as much and twice as hard.
A significant other can make or break a soldier and if you can't be what he needs then it would be kinder to let him go and let him find that person he needs.
To make an informed decision I would suggest check out from your library and read the book 'Under the Sabers : The Unwritten Code of Army Wives' by Tanya Biank
This book is about real people, real events and will give you a glimpse into what some before you have lived through as a significant other of a soldier.
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