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*aperflower
writes:I have been with my boyfriend for almost three years. I love him so much and the thought of him not being in my life or being with someone else breaks my heart. Our relationship is really good sometimes -meaning we get along so well and have a blast together but other times it feels dull and we don't really have much to say to each other and it gets me down. We have sex once a week usually on Sundays and while it is enjoyable it is far from mind blowing. He is a stoner so his sex drive isn't that high. he always initiates because if I do and he doesn't feel like it, it just gets weird. I feel like there is more to life and a relationship than this but we cannot break up as we do deeply love each other and it would just make us sad being apart ( we have tried in the past and failed ) he is the nicest boy he does everything for me and he treats me so well I just don't know what to do part of me wants passion and I wonder if there is my 'soulmate' out there but I also cannot bear the thought of losing my boyfriend as I love him so much and the thought just makes me want to cry.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (25 March 2010):
Plenty better out there. Why settle for someone who is on drugs and will have problems with sex, paranoia (eventually), tiredness, anger, addiction etc, when you can have someone who doesn't have one of those problems. You know in your heart you can do better than him, or you wouldn't be here. so do better.
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reader, adamantine +, writes (25 March 2010):
 My boyfriend is a stoner too. If you think it's the weed thats the root of the problem, have a talk to him about his smoking habits. Does he love weed more than he loves you? Would he risk losing you to it? Talk more. It seems you don't communicate enough.
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