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writes: I feel guilty. And then I feel amazing with my boyfriend of 5 months now. He's done things in the past that have disrespected me. He's betrayed me. A couple of weeks ago, we came to the conclusion that we do love each other but can't put ourselves through so much emotional stress. I explained that because of the way I was raised and the fact that I didn't grow up with my father, it is VERY important that I don't continue a cycle of being with loser men.Basically if anything else bad happens I don't ever want to see him again. So things have been flawless the past couple of weeks like I said, but for some reason I feel like Im being untrue to myself by telling him that he's my "dream guy." My "dream guy" would never have done the things he's done in the past.. I just know this is how you should feel when you're with someone right?? Though I still see a good person in him, I just think he's done too much. And the really sad part is that at times I know he feels unworthy of me, and i feel bad thinking its kind of true! I've been nothing but a perfect girlfriend in his life and he's only recently started to appreciate itI don't if I can stay in this relationship.. I don't know if I can keep all the horrible things from the past out of my mind in order to continue a beautiful relationship with him.. Maybe Im lonely.. Thats why Im still with him. I hate thinking that though. I don't know what the hell to think about anything anymore.... I just know if I have to I will move on, but for right now Im just .. With him.. And I love him
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reader, Angelicc  +, writes (2 April 2006):
 okay i'm the type of person who forgives but never forgets which really isnt forgiving at all. if your able to forget the things his done to you in the past then you'll never be able to forgive. forgivens is done because the person needs it not because they deserve it.
if your unable to get over what his done then your never really be able to forgive him and if you keep it in its only going to affect your relationship. it'll build up inside you and you'll just grow more resentful. you'll begin to hate, wonder why you still him, then it'll one year and half before you realise that you want to move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2006): You sound confused girl.I don't think he is the one for you or you would not be feeling these mixed feelings.In your heart you know what you have to do. If you don't end it,he will,eventually. One will always have the up's and down's in a relationship, unfortunately no relationship is perfect and you have only been in yours for 5 months not even 5 years and he is giving you greif already.Let him go sweetheart and move on with your young life.
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