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writes: Four weeks ago, I found out my boyfriend cheated on me a thid time. Says he didn't have sex with the girl but was wearing a condom. Turns out she said she no longer wanted to have sex with him but he claims that if he really wanted to have sex with her he could have but he really did not want to. He had lied to me about why he bought condoms when he went away for three weeks but when I read a strange text on his phone and asked him about it he told me the "truth" after ignoring me for hours. He treats me like he loves me but he has cheated on me twice before. I don't know if he is telling the truth about not actually having sex with the girl he met. They had known each other for almost two weeks. I have never cheated on him and have been with him for three years. I decided to stay with him, give him another chance but the truth is that I honestly do not trust him. Lately we argue a lot and have a lot of misunderstandings.I love him but currently I am not happy. I need help , I don't know what to do. I am also stressed out over school and work. I am just really frustrated and sad. My life seems a bit messed up. What do you think I should do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2005): i really do feel for you as i have been in that position before. its not good to be in a relationship where you dont trust your boyfriend. why would you put yourself through it over and over again. if you love him then take some time out. make him realise what he is missing and if he doesnt miss you then your away from that cheater for good.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2005): well if he didn't have sex why would he need to wear a condom? you have said that she nolonger wanted to have sex with him meaning that it was not his choice not to have sex, and by accepting him back for cheating in the past has shown him that he can get away with it if he did it again. what you do is upto you but if ur unhappy and he is cheating and lying to you why are you with him when u can be single, happy and be finding someone who u can trust and who will love you like you love them.ignore him, show him that he is not everything to you. go out with friends get him out of your mind show yourself u dont need to be with him. there is a saying which everyone should know, once a cheater always a cheater he will only go do it again once he knows your under his thumb.good luck.
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reader, lisa_01  +, writes (27 November 2005):
 Leave him now, once a cheater always a cheater,if this man can hurt you over and over again like this i dont think his going to stop,just leave and find yourself a real man who is going care and respect you, i know its going to be hard but trust me your going to feel so Relieved once his out of your life.
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reader, louiseBaker +, writes (27 November 2005):
You know what you should do but you just don't want to admit it..dump him..he sounds like a complete loser! The longer you stay in this relationship the more stressed out and messed up your going to be. A leopard like this is never gonna change its spots and unless you can come to terms with the fact that he's just gonna cheat on you all the time then i'd get out of this relationship as fast as you can..otherwise your only going to get hurt big time.
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