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writes: hi, ive been dating this amazing guy for awhile now and i know he's the one and he feels the same way. im extremely comfortable with him but the problem is with his family. they seem really nice but i feel awkward around them because they dont really talk to me like my parents would my bf. my parent are very fun and open but i dont have any siblings. they talk to my friends and bf a lot and joke w/ them and laugh and stuff, they're just cool i guess. my bf's parents are very nice but just not like my parents and i dont know how to feel better around them. then there is all his siblings, he has a few older siblings and i feel so weird around them like im gonna do something wrong because they all seem so perfect, and i also feel strange because my bf is the only one with a serious relationship. we're both very mature but still in high school, so could his family just see us as not important or something and take it different then my family? how do i get over this, should i tell my bf? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2006): It's always good to keep an open communication with your partner to a degree. In this case, yes, talk with your bf about it, but from the look of things, this sort of thing is quite 'normal'. It just means you care a lot on your connection with your bf and his family. You want them to accept you as your bf accepts you.
Getting over your insecurities about this takes time. Do not expect that you can change your feelings over night. As you progress in your relationship with your bf, you may also progress your relationship with his family. This is not set in stone, but remember that ultimately, you are dating and having a relationship with your bf and not to his family. It's good to show consideration and sincere care for them, but try not to let them control your feelings and connection towards your bf.
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