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writes: my b/f wants to have a threesome. i have been with women before but i was not in a relationship at the time. me and my b/f have a baby now and i love him and want a life for us together. it makes me sick to think of him being with another woman but i want him to be happy and sexually fulfilled. i just dont know how i am going to feel afterwards and i am afraid that it will cause problems for me in the end. should i give in and give it a whirl or is there a better alternative to his fantasy
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2006): Well why does he have to do anything with her why don't you turn him on by being with a girl in front of him but if he wants to have sex it should be with just you I had a three some before but he never touched the other girl I told him if it was to be that he did or wanted to I would make it a very bad expierence for him but, if you don't feel comfortable don't do it cause you will regret it and deffinetly don't do it with someone you know cause it never works that way! Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2006): I understand how you feel. I would hate to see someone else with my lover. I would not be able to handle that. Some people can and that is fine - each to their own.But I know that I couldn't and you sound like you have the same reaction to it. And that's fine too. Just because your boyfriend wants one does not mean you have to give in. You should never do something that makes you uncomfortable.And you are smart to think about the ramifications of doing something like this. Some people don't and then get shocked when afterwards they begin to feel insecure, jealous or their feelings for their partners change.You have to tell your boyfriend that whilst you accept that is his fantasy - you just don't feel comfortable with it.Whilst you love him and you trust him, you are worried that doing this will have negetive impacts on your relationship and you don't want to risk what you have with him. Also maybe ask him why he wants this? Perhaps his reason will indicate to you other things you can do that would help satisfy him sexually. Maybe he wants the feeling of doing something dangerous, outrageous - in that case maybe there is something you can do together that will make him feel that rush. Discuss other sexual fantasies he has - I'm sure that there is something else he has thought about which just involves the two of you.I would say that you shouldn't give in if it really makes you feel uncomfortable. That is not fair to you.Also - just for your information - my best friend came to me in tears one day after her boyfriend had suggested one. She was devasted so i said 'imagine how he would feel' so she went him and suggested they have a threesome with one of his mates from footy. He never mentioned the idea again.Good Luck and please only do what you are comfortable with. If you can face it - do it but if you can't - don't.
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