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writes:Hi, I am a 25 year old mother of two from a previous relationship. I am with an amazing 21 year old who acts much older than his age. We've been together for almost a year, he tears my kids as they are his own. Now here is the problem, he's been looking for jobs left and right here where we live, he got in a union that was fantastic but got laid off and now there isn't any work. So he's now decided to leave the state to look for a good paying job. He did so without even talking to me knowing I would rather his stay home and keep looking or wait for jobs in the union. The jobs he's considering will have him gone for 2 weeks and home 2 weeks. He says he's doing it for our family because we deserve better, I'm a school bus driver and don't being home much. I feel as though he's dead set on this just to get away from me. Since he made this decision he's treated me completely different, he's been hateful and mean. I love him and I believe he loves me but I'm lost. Do I take him at his word or what? Reply to this Question
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reader, petina1  +, writes (9 June 2014):
 The fact that he didn't discuss it with you makes me think he is trying to get away without any hassle... Give him his wings. If he is serious he will come back to you. If y ou try to keep him with you at all costs eventually you will lose him anyway. You know yourself it doesn't feel right. Help him pack his bag and wish him luck. Hope this helps.
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reader, petina1 +, writes (9 June 2014):
The fact that he didn't discuss it with you makes me think he is trying to get away without any hassle... Give him his wings. If he is serious he will come back to you. If y ou try to keep him with you at all costs eventually you will lose him anyway. You know yourself it doesn't feel right. Help him pack his bag and wish him luck. Hope this helps.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (6 June 2014):
 You don't tell us WHY you feel he's taking a job out of state just to get away from you. Yes, you say he's being mean and spiteful since when he took this decision, but that was AFTER the decision.
What I'd like to know, is what made you feel that the job would be just an excuse to get away from you , when he started thinking about it. Had things already started being rocky, and rocky like what ?... Otherwise ,his would sound like a perfectly logical decision that makes a lot of sense ( and that more people should be brave enough to make ). When there's no work in an area- you move to another area with better prospects. You GO after work, you don't wait for work to come to you and follow in your lap. Of course this often implies big sacrifices and difficulties for couples and families , but... go complain with global economy, or the social structure of Western countries, or whatnot- surely not with the worker who's leaving home to get himself a better present and a stabler future. As a matter of fact, 2 weeks away and 2 weeks home ain't that bad at all, considering how many people have to go far, far away from home to make some money .
I guess my point is : why it HAS to be about you and your children ? ( since it would seem a pretty logical move for an unemployed guy ) What happened to make you suspicious about the sincerity of his intents ?
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