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writes:well now. here I am again. I have been on here a couple of times. it started wit a girl I fell in love with and we became a lot more than just friends. I've bent over backwards for this girl and then some. I want nothing more than to make her happy. then she started seeing other guys. I was a lil stunned for I thought we had something. so naturally I wanted no more to do with her. I started to meet other girls and talkin wit my buddies at work bout them and such.(her and I work together) she started too flirt and acted really interested in me again. I eventually was single again after an agreement to see other people with my ex. she broke it off with her current boyfriend and started confiding in me yet again. I tried all I could to distance from her. somehow I ended up back in her bed. trying to be father for her child and be there for her. then she went out and found another guy. she says she's in love and that he is everything she wants in a man. yet she still basically plays with me flirting, setting up dates with me only for I to turn down. constant flirtation and acting like we are a couple. I feel so torn up inside because of her. I hate her for doing this to me and yet im still in love with her and that just makes me hate myself. I can't help but feel most of the responsiblity for the spot im in and how I feel. what in the hell do I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2009): Women tend to "use" men for emotional support in the same way men "use" women for sex. I've been down this road a time or two and it sucks. The attraction is there so strong and yet she's hot and cold. The reality is she's just not that into you, and no matter how much you want her to change, she never will. You're going to have to close the door on this one.
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reader, christopher422 +, writes (14 June 2009):
 Total mind games! you cant win in this situation, cut her loose and find another girl. Tell her , game over, please insert quarters in another guy.
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reader, Smellyellie  +, writes (13 June 2009):
 Cut off all communications with her she is using you and no one deserves to go through the pain of why she is putting you through. It sounds as if you are her sort of male booty call if you get what I mean? I would stop all contacts with her and then maybe she will get the idea. It also sounds like she is very insecure with herself that she has to be with someone.
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