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*antspaintogoaway
writes:My girlfriend and i have only been dating for two months. i am 16 but a romancer all the same. i lost my virginity to this girl and i love her. its not about the sex and i dont think she realizes it. in two months we have only dont it three times. and she says im really good. but she came over last night and said she didnt want to have sex anymore. or anything else sexual. but i refuse to go back to masterbating. she said she would save giving me blowjobs for special nights. but i will miss the sex on special nights. it just doesnt feel the same anymore. i love her so much but idk if i can deal with all this. any advice?
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reader, emmaa92  +, writes (25 September 2010):
you need to go to her calmly and tell her how you are feeling, because she must have a reason for doing this and it is your right to know. telling you why shouldnt be a problem for her if she loves and trusts you, but maybe she feels you may do it too much. i know from being a female teen that it can leave you with a reputation so maybe her friends are giving her grief about it? but if you really love her and she doesnt want to do sexual things at the moment, you should accept that because if you truely love her, it shouldnt matter as much for you to break up with her over! good luck! :) x
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2010): I think she's having second thoughts about rushing sex, a common mistake among the hormone charged young. Respect her, wait, and be patient with the sex talk. Do not pressure her as if you do, your relationship will surely backfire.
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reader, UnxpectedSmile +, writes (24 September 2010):
 If you truly love her you will wait. Yes you will miss the sex and what not but that shouldn't be your main focus. Maybe she feel guilty or like she rushed sex to fast. The best thing to do is just ask her why she has made this choice and not to get angry with her or guilt her into sleeping with you again.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (24 September 2010):
 What was her reasoning? Did you talk about that? Two months is pretty fast to be sleeping together, let alone "in love."
If you love her, you'll do what she says. It isn't out of bounds to ask her why the change though. I honestly think that she is pulling back because she feels like she rushed things and wants to make sure both of your feelings for eachother are real before getting sexual again. At least, that would be the mature reason for her to do what she did.
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reader, Over..worried.  +, writes (24 September 2010):
 Try talking to her why, she feels this way. Maybe she really doesn't know that your not only in it for the sex. The only reason I know my bf wasn't was because we waited 7 months because I wasn't ready. Maybe she isn't sure if you love her body or love her.
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