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writes: Ok so I been with my girlfriend for all most 6 years have a 4 year old son and honestly we have been thru so much from keeping lil lies from each other wen we where younger to frowning and trusting eachother for about the past 4 to 5 years there hasn’t been anything serious I tell her everything she tells me everything we argued and sometimes it does get physical but maybe about 2 years ago something happened in my life and I could have died so I realized I just wanted to be with her and my son nothing matter I used to always be with friends going out and that was wen I was 23 I’m 28 now she was 17 and is now bout to be aug 1st then I had went to jail for 5 months for something I didn’t do that’s a diff story altogether but she held me down she didn’t do anything she came to see me Everyday talked to her in the phone all the time so I like was like this is really the girl for me no matter what we have gone thru I never felt so much love for her and wen I got out I’ve been all about her and my son streaming near from friends to actually show her I want to be with her we are getting ready to buy a house and I wanted to propose to her in aug for her birthday. But maybe a couple months ago she started acting sneaky with her phone and I would ask to see it then we would get in to arguement and fights it would get physical sometimes on both sides and then I get a call from my sister she was with guys on snap chat that same night come to find out it was co workers and the person who told my sister slept with the guy she was on the snap chat so I got over it then a week later the phone issue comes up agian then she goes out she’s asks me of she can go in one of my friends vip with her twin sister and friend I say yes Becuz I’m trying to not be the lame bf so 2 days later I get a call from my friend that messes with her sister saying my girlfriend was drunk and was dancing with guys in the vip long story short it was her sister now I still feel something happening. We argue then she tells me she wants to work thing out we give each other codes to phones then that same night when she falls asleep I go thru her phone find a guys name saved under some girl let’s call him C and it’s the same name as her ex boyfriend right b4 me. So I wake her up ask her who it is after 2 hours she finally tells me it’s her twin that was in her Snapchat talking to some guy from Boston ok I get over it but something isn’t right so I hack ig snap and find nothing then I hack fb which she said she’s lost her pass word to and I find a convo of her and ex talking saying basically they miss each other he is locked up tho with a phone in jail but she had been telling him she always thinks of him and would go visit him and everything and she says she didn’t mean none of it so like what do I do
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2018): Well, you have a son to take care of. he comes first. Not much to tell you; because she was only 17 when you first met. Then she got pregnant, you went to jail, and that's the kind of life you've offered her and your kid. You say you didn't do it. That's what they all say.
You don't trust her. She got involved with you when she was too young, and now she's a mother. She didn't have much of a chance to enjoy being a teenager; then you come along and give a messy relationship. She has to visit her son's father in jail. Of course, for something you didn't do. Now you're jealous and don't trust her. You've gotten out of jail; and now you're giving her the typical baby-daddy drama.
She's reliving those last few teenage years you took from her. She was too young for what you've put her through. So be a good father to your son. Try to work it out with her.
I'll just be straight with you. If it wasn't for a kid, she would have probably left you while you were in jail. Instead she stuck by you.
What kind of life does she have with you? Does she have reason to be happy? Are the bills paid? What can she look forward to with you? Are you working? I think she's too young to be a mother or married.
You tried to make her grow-up too fast. This is what comes of that. She's still a kid. She didn't get to date guys, party, or do the things girls do when they're 17,18, and 19. She was a single-mom visiting her boyfriend in jail. She's a little wayward now; because she doesn't know what to do with herself. She left home too soon. Life has been messy ever since.
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