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I love her and we've been doing sexual things together. Despite all this she says she doesn't love me sexually. So what am I, to her?

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Question - (21 December 2014) 5 Answers - (Newest, 23 December 2014)
A female United Kingdom age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I've been best friends with a girl for 5 months.

She's my daughters uncle's wife.

We have been come really close, and doing sexual things with each other.

It's happened 3 times now.

I'm confused in what to do.

I love her to bits, but she says she's doesn't love me in that way.

She says she loves me like her husband but not sexually.

So why is she doing sexual stuff with me?

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A female reader, Euphoric29 Germany +, writes (23 December 2014):

Dear OP,

Maybe she was just curious, needed some affection and to feel attractive to somebody. We'll never know unless you ask.

But I can help you out of your confusion: You need to end it.

Reasons why:

1) She's married (to a guy)

2) She says she loves him

3) She doesn't love you in a sexual way, which means she only sees you as a friend, while you "love her to bits".

If you go on with this, her marriage will be in danger, but okay, she's a free person. But on top of that, she'll break your heart, because you'll develop feelings for her and she'll leave you alone again, to stay with her hubby.

Take some distance and time from her and look for a lesbian/bisexual woman who loves you also in a sexual way.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2014):

She says she wants to do thease things cus she wants to im confused

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2014):

If she's telling you she doesn't like you in that ay - LISTEN!! She goes along with it because you're her best friend and she doesn't want to lose you, doesn't mean she wants it or enjoys it! Stop initiating!! Ill bet she doesn't initiate

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2014):

No its not my brother.i was going with his brother but not now I child as nothing to do with her dad he doesn't want to know only his brother and sister in law

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A male reader, Sageoldguy1465 United States +, writes (22 December 2014):

Sageoldguy1465 agony auntYour "daughter's uncle's wife" is EITHER your SISTER, or your sister-in-law...(your brother's wife). I'll give you the benefit of the doubt... that she is your brother's wife....

Soooo.... how much of a cad do you intend to be???? ... to be so disloyal to YOUR OWN BROTHER that you will screw with his wife????

Good luck...

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