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*ubydreams
writes:Hi, I met a girl three years ago I was 27 she was 18, we fell in love and moved in. Now I am 30 and she is 21, we were due to get married next month and had been trying for a baby, we were happy, then 3mths ago she got a new job and a guy started getting close, she told me he was nothing to her just a good friend, I was skeptical, I could tell he was after her, last month she told me doesn't love me or want me anymore and has moved in with this guy and is in a relationship with him, claiming that she has felt different about me for a year yet it didn't seem that way to me, I have lost her and everything, I cannot function, eat or sleep and feel like giving up. I love her and want her back, what can I do? I am a mess and getting worse, I cannot stop thinking about them together in everyway and wish it was still me. Please help me, she was my life!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2009): Dude i have been through this before. She will learn the hard way and come back to you. Let her go even tho it will be really hard. Start NC NOW (no contact). Let her contact you first. goodluck
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reader, rubydreams +, writes (22 August 2009):
rubydreams is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe plans were hers, she wanted them and I went along because I wanted them too, and because she said that would make her happy, before she got the job she would keep telling me and everyone how much she loved me. that's why I am confused as well, I know the guy is a player and everyone warned her, how can i get her to see the truth.
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reader, Starlights +, writes (22 August 2009):
 Unfortunately you have to accept this is over.
Your ex gf has made her choice.
she is still a young woman and probably did not want to get tied down yet.
She has chosen another guy but dont let it make you feel bad because its no reflection on you.
you was good in all this. all you tried to do was make her happy.
Breakups are extremely difficult and you can only tackle one day at a time.
You need to remember that she has made her choice and give yourself a chance to grieve. not eating, sleeping, feeling like a mess is all natural when you have a breakup.
you may feel like you need some time alone to cry and this is fine although do have a good friend you can turn to for support.
Only time and surrounding yourself with supportive friends and focusing on a better future will help you to overcome this struggle.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2009): Be a man, YOU be your life not her. Let her go, obviously she is not into you but don't take it personally at such young age girls barely know what they really want.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2009): All you can do is go no contact and see if she comes back to you. Make her miss you dude..goodluck
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