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writes:I am just about to enter college. I have been with my girlfriend for over three years now. I plan on proposing to her soon, as it is a very serious relationship and if I had any definition of love it would be the feelings I have for her. I wish to teach spanish for a living. However, this REQUIRES one semester of studying abroad, which would be about 4 months in a different country. My girlfriend seems to have separation anxiety problems at times, and it is really worrying me.I have a few options. I could simply not become a spanish teacher, therefore eliminating the requirement of traveling abroad for 4 months. That would be simple, but I've looked into multiple different careers and simply can't find one appealing that I'd like to do for a living. It may be only because I don't know how to go about searching.The other option would be to become a spanish teacher, and go through with traveling abroad. But when things happen at home, how am I supposed to deal with them? I believe I could see her over spring break (traveling would be in the spring semester, the break being halfway through) and that would cut the away time in half. But I would want away time to screw up my new marriage. What else could I possibly do to make the time easier for her and make sure it won't hurt her or our marriage? I am willing to do anything in my power to make things work, I love her so much. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2009): You clearly love your girlfriend very much, and well done to you for seeing potential problems and trying to work them out early!
Dont give up on your dream of being a spanish teacher tho!
First of all, talk talk talk to your girlfriend about everything youve told us here.
I am assuming that you mean you wouldN'T (not "But I would want away time to screw up my new marriage")
What is your girlfreind doing while you are at college? Perhaps she could go with you for the semester? it could be a great experience for both of you! If not for the whole thing, maybe she could go for half of it.
Also, there are things like Skype and video chat that make the distace a lot less of a problem, free calling and being able to see each other as much as you want!
If you have more info on the situation maybe I would be able to help more!
Hugs!
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