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writes:Is it normal that my girlfriend will only have sex with her clothes on? I love my girlfriend and love our intimate times but she doesn't want to get naked for sex, she only feels comfortable while clothed.She has always struggled with her weight and body image and doesn't feel like her body is normal so I understand, but at the same time I'm frustrated. She feels really bad that I'm frustrated but doesn't want to change it. We lost our virginities to each other and have had a sexual relationship for 5 months now. Am I being over dramatic about this? Do a lot of women prefer to be clothed during sex? How should I handle this? I love her a lot. Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (4 May 2015):
 I have been known at times to be more comfortable wearing a cami or nightie for sex when I'm not feeling good about my body.
what happens when you try to touch her through the clothes?
have you told her you love her and want to see her naked?
will you be ok with naked in the dark? or do you want naked and the lights on?
have you tried a candle lit shower? low lights and water may help....
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (4 May 2015):
It's only been five months, not five years, so give her time.
This is not a problem, it is the test you will NEED to learn in any relationship for the rest of your life...PATIENCE!!! Do not forget...it is HER body not yours. Just because you want things to go a certain way, does mean you should have it.
A relationship is not all about YOU and what YOU want. Put yourself in her place. What if you had a large scar on your stomach from an injury. Something you yourself found gross to look at, and she wanted you to take off your clothes. It would be hard to do at first, until you feel completely comfortable with her, and that you can trust her not to be grossed out.
People always want their partners to change for them, when it's them that need to change how they think. Want someone else to change for you? Change yourself first.
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