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*imboitmantx
writes:I'm 44 male and left my wife for a 55 year old hot lady. I've been married since 18 and rarely cheated, whereas she's been married 3 times and has 4 kids from 3 different men. She's cheated on all of them, been promiscuous, often having sex same day she met a guy, as was in my case. I've been with her 3 1/2 years and I love her. I just think that she shows too many traits and behaviors of a chronic cheater. 1. She buys new outfits constantly and has hair and nails done too.2. We cannot go out to dinner or bar without her going to the hairstylist first.3. She is crazy wild in bed and has discussed that 4 of her past lovers had large penis. 4. She said she has slept with 24 men, so real total is higher I'm sure. 5. She said she cheated on old partners for revenge or that another guy was very persistent, one guy was 19 and she was 35 and he asked her for 6 months until she finally gave in she said. 6. She is naturally flirty and men hit on her, like our Doctor, husbands, men at bars. 7. When she drinks, she will 'accidently" dance with a man, last week, 3 guys. And she told me that if I danced with a girl, she'd come slap me. Double standards, blames on alcohol. 8. IF we get into an argument, she threatens to sleep with old bf's.9. She is critical and hostile towards me out of the blue, I think it is when she is guilty about something. 10. She's cheated before, been cheated on, and also been abused in her relationships. 11. She tells me about her friends that are cheating and why, where, etc.12. Very materialistic. 13. She talks critically of me to her friends all the time, no matter what good things I've done, she only mentions mistakes. I have a nice penis, but I do think she misses very large ones. Good she have fallen in love with me and changed?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2015): She isn't wife material. AT ALL.You were thinking with your little head when you decided to leave your wife and marry her unfortunately.Now that you are finally thinking with your big head you are questioning your decision.And why wouldn't you after everything you have told us?She has cheated before. So she is a cheater.There is a very good possibility she is cheating right now or that she WILL cheat in the future. Time will tell. Do you really want to wait around worrying about WHEN that will happen?
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reader, deirdre  +, writes (4 May 2015):
i think the most important part of this isnt about whether she is faithful or not, it is about the fact that you deserve better.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (4 May 2015):
 You "rarely cheated"... and she (by your accounting) is "promiscuous." Sounds like a match made in Heaven... HOWEVER, you've expanded your scope of things such that you've defined several "girly," or "womanly" things to "mean" "she's cheating." You need more than that....
HOWEVER.... it sure "sounds" like you are not comfortable with her as your steady partner.... and - so - only YOU can decide what is your comfort level with a desireable, HOT, attractive and - evidently - very sexual woman....
Make two lists... what you like and can tolerate (1); and, what you don't like and won't tolerate (the other). When you get to the bottom of those lists, I believe that tally will guide you to your wisest choice....
Good luck.....
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reader, CMMP +, writes (4 May 2015):
She sounds terrible in general, and I'd say she'll definitely cheat if she hasn't already. Maybe an open relationship would be a better idea.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2015): you can torment yourself that she is cheating but you have no substantial proof. It sounds to me that now that youve married her you wish you hadnt..perhaps youre looking for a reason for a divorce...is she wealthy? All these terrible thoughts must drive you crazy, perhaps you should ditch her now instead of living in torment.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (4 May 2015):
 I am a 55 yr old hot lady myself. I am married. I love to get my hair and nails done. I love to go shopping and buy new clothes and all the fun stuff.
I have had more than 100 partners. Male and female. I have had partners with large penises and small. I am pretty wild and crazy in bed when I’m with a partner that appreciates and enjoys it.
I am very flirty. In fact, my husband says “you flirt like you breathe” He knows it’s who I am and who I was before he married me. He accepts it.
SOME of the things you list have NOTHING to do with cheating. Some of them do.
Being materialistic is not a sign of cheating. Neither is getting your hair or nails done or shopping.
Threatening to sleep with former lovers is childish and immature and done to piss you off.
Bad mouthing you and disrespecting you is not a very nice thing to do but has no bearing on her being a cheat.
Is CHEATING the only thing that will upset you enough to leave her?
What makes you think she's cheating? Is she going out with out you? Is she hiding things? does she keep secrets?
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