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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:There is a guy I have been really interested in for a while, who I wasn't completely sure if he felt the same about me. That is, until last night-I think. He and I were hanging out as friends do, and whilst drinking a bit at a bar, he basically caught on that I was flirting heavily. Upon a little prying, I come to find he feels the same about me. However, he had had a few drinks at this point, and well... something I'm not too proud of happened. I lost my virginity to him. I felt horrible because I didn't want to in the beginning! But I did and regretted it instantly. Feeling bad for ditching him while he slept, I left a note and text saying I was sorry. Next morning I get a text asking what happened last night. He remembered nothing of what happened, making me feel worse. The worst part is, I still really like him. So my question (feel free to judge me on this.) is should I ask him to do this the right way a.k.a dating? Or have I basically ruined all chances of ever being with this guy? :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTo the male reader, there is no doubt that he regrets it. He told me it shouldn't have happened and that he was sorry. And I know I shouldn't have gone home with him. Had I not been interested in him for so long (we are also technically friends) I wouldn't have done it.To the female reader, I am going to talk to him as soon as I can, although I am kind of scared to bring the topic up to him again. And as I said, I really do still like him. So who knows? :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2011): I think he does remember but regrets it as well. Its a bad idea to drink at bars and go home with guys..many mishaps happen this way and many guys would love nothing better than to be rid of that burden the following morning. Don't rush after him.
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reader, just a female  +, writes (6 February 2011):
 you have ruined nothing, you could be with this guy all you need to do id talk to him.
im really sorry about you losing your virginity when you didnt feel ready but i think its more of a motive to try make a relationship work with this guy, that way you might be able to feel better about this.
talk to him and see what he says you never know you could have lost your virginity to a man you might be with for the rest of yur life.
all the best
xxx
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