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writes: Lost my virginity to the wrong guy!Hi i lost my virginity and im regretting it big time, i wanted to be like kinda special and be in a true deep relationship but i ended up loosing it to a guy who ive been out with b4, hes going out with someone at the time, and he slept with me and my best friend!!I nearly became pregnant and im regrettin it big time i wish i hadnt lost it why do teenagers wanna loose it so quickly i wish i hadnt and i fell used and just low :(
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (17 July 2006):
 There is enormous peer-pressure to have sex at a young age which is sad because young people are rarely emotionally capable of dealing with sexual relationships, even if their bodies are. You have to remember that lots of people lose it to the 'wrong person'. This idealisation of losing virginity to a prince on a white horse is just not realistic most of the time - it is more often a drunken fumble. You cannot change the past, but you should not be too worried either or let it affect your mood now. Just remember that valuable lesson for the future about having sex when you feel ready, and with someone who is committed to you. Sex isn't always awful but in the beginning we are all on a relationship learning curve. The guy you slept with maybe a rat, but learn to spot a rat in the future...there are plenty out there, but plenty of nice men too who will treasure you!
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx +, writes (17 July 2006):
 So many people have been in your position. In fact, most girls regret the first time they have sex as, deep down, most of us want the first time to be something special. Guys aren't really the same and just want to lose it a lot of the time (not all of them are like this, though) and any girls that cross their paths are often just girls to use to lose their virginity to.
I know you feel really bad and this probably was the wrong way to losr your virginity but it's done now and you have to consider this a lesson. Don't let men use you for sex and respect yourself enough to say no when you don't want to do it. From now on, make a man prove to you he is worth your time first before letting him get close to you.
Sex is a very special thing and, just because your virginity is gone, it does not mean that you can't start afresh now. Just be careful in future and, when it comes time to have sex again with someone you love and trust, USE A CONDOM!
Good luck and keep your head up, girl. We all make mistakes but dwelling on them only makes us unhappy. Consider it a lesson and move on, you're worth more than this.
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