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writes:I have been in a relationship for 3 years, i live with my partner, but i am not happy have not been happy with him for a while. I have met this really nice guy who i have known for a while and i want to be with this new guy so much, but i dont know how to end it with current partner as he has a very violent family and have had alot of trouble in the past with his family, the other problem is the house we rent is in both names and he is the main claimaint on the tenancy and the housing benefit (my name is also on but he is the main claiment) he would go back to his familys and he would probably let me take over the house we rent. whats the best solution for this?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (24 May 2016):
 Come again, you can't leave your boyfriend because he's had a tragic past? Wtf is that crap? No, excuse my bluntness, but you're not hos social worker, or psychologist, and you have every right to end the relationship regardless of what fragile mental state you believe him to be in. If you are concerned he will harm himself, you call the police and inform them. That's the correct approach. Not to stay put in a relationship to service as his crutch.
Or, did you mean his family is violent, and they will come beat you if you end the relationship? Again, call the authorities and inform your own family for protection.
Either way, what you do when no longer happy in a relationship, and want out: you leave! Yes, that's what you normally do, and that is what you need to do, for the sake of everyone involved.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2016): Whether or not you date this other guy, you need to split up with your current bf. What you should not expect is for him to move out quietly, or should you expect this new guy to come and share the rent at your home with you.You should get removed from the tenancy at your house and find somewhere to live that will be a fresh start. If your boyfriends family are so violent they would potentially try to come after you, then tell only a few people you trust where you will be moving to.You are 18-21, so potentially you could move back with family? Don't rush into a new relationship, it's not good for anyone and you will need time to see whether you actually like this new guy and it's not just because he's better than your current bf! Once your single you might realise this guy isn't for you either.Do not stay living with someone you're clearly not happy with when you're so young! If your boyfriend could get violent about the break up you move your stuff out while he is out and have at least one friend/family member with you. You can tell him outside the building that you've moved out and then leave with the family member/friend. If he's a calm person then tell him 1:1 but have someone outside ready to leave with you so nothing turns nasty.
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reader, Denizen +, writes (23 May 2016):
 Are you expecting your current partner of three years to move out so you can live with the new guy? I hope that isn't the plan you have in mind.
First of all I think people need time between breaking up with someone and starting anew. It's bad news in general to hop between partners.
Secondly could your new man provide a roof over your head so you aren't living in your old love's space? That would make the break cleaner.
Next, you need to tell your current partner you want out. The longer the betrayal the worse it feels for the other person, unless of course they have someone new as well. Quick and clean is the way to go. You shouldn't be brutal but don't hang it out.
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