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writes:please help me, my head is messed up. i like 2 guys and there best friends, im not using there names so im just gonna call the guy 1 and guy 2 , so guy one ive liked him for a long long time now he's one of those guy you cant get out of your mind , but thing is he as a girlfrind! but she doesnt actually like him she's just using him for pleasure, well one night i told him how i felt about him and he just said well thanks for telling me thats brave i was omggg! and ever since that night i told him he's been flirting me me and just being there all the time he keeps messing with my head!he told his mate that told me he likes me but why is he still with the girl! . well guy 2 is like my best friend, is it good to fall in love with a best friend? well i cant help it i have, i just feel so natuall with him , i cant shake this feeling of liking him :/ but the thing is he's my best friends ex but i think if i told her i liked him she would be mad? but the thing i she has moved on and already got a new boyfriend her and guy 2 spilt up 2 months ago now but i know she would still be mad because i told her i dont like him . i dont know what to do!!!! i always want the guys i cant haveee!
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reader, 1290uk +, writes (17 May 2010):
 Re: guy 2. I know everyone else has said it's a bad idea, but talk to your friend, tell her you like him, and see if she actually does mind, if so, then it's a no no, but if she doesn't, then in my experience, some of the best relationships start as good friendships.
Guy 1 just sounds like he likes the attention, and if he's being like this with you while he has a girlfriend, if you were together, you would have to expect the same.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2010): ok you need to really pick one because at the end of it all
you ll either loose both or hurt boh and trust me dont waste your life on that because it will come back to u 10n times worse its karma!
i ve been there done it trust me not worth it!
you need to think of what it would be like if you were one of the guys seriously bith in my opinion arenty worth it
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (16 May 2010):
 Yep that's enough in your head to render you incapable of any other thoughts. You're going to hate this answer but I think you need to just let it be. Find a way to make peace with all this in your head and try to fill your mind up with other things you enjoy. You've made the first step by telling guy 1 you like him so if this is meant to be it will be. No amount of worrying about it will make the outcome any different. What I like to do in a worrying situation is to throw the worry to the gods. I sit alone and try to get peaceful then I speak out loud and ask for the gods to help me with this problem. Then I try to forget about it by being busy. It usually works for me.
I think guy 2 is out of the question for boyfriend material. Friends usually last for ever and are utlimately more precious to us than boyfriends. Good luck sweet you will be ok.
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reader, Catriona +, writes (16 May 2010):
I had the exact same situation with guy 1 as you. I have always liked him, even when there was other guys I was involved with. I waited two years on him and my time with him is finally coming round. I told him the same way you told guy 1 and he gave me a similar response. He would probably feel guilty if he admitted to any feelings as he already has a girlfriend. If you truely love this boy you would wait.
Also, guy2 being one of your best friends isn't a bad thing. Maybe you should just wait and if he confesses to any feelings towards you then see where it goes from there. I advise you to tell your best friend as you should be able to talk it through with her even if it is an awkward subject. You will feel better all round if you discuss the whole situation with her.
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (16 May 2010):
 Life can be unfair. You cannot date either boy. Firstly, you told boy1 you fancy him and he has not responded how you expected. He already has a girlfriend and if he was unhappy with her then he would leave that relationship. He is probably flattered that you like him, but he doesn't want you to be a girlfriend. He likes the flirting as a bit of a game.
As for boy2, if you value your friendship with your female best mate then you will leave him alone. Boys come and go, and as you get older you will meet more boys who don't share the same social circle. It is then that you will meet potential boyfriends. I think your best friend may think you are putting your own relationship needs above your friendship with her and not trust you anymore. I think female best friends are more important than dating a boy with whom it might not even work out with. It is ok not to have a boyfriend at any age. Teenage boys often make lousy boyfriends. I think you should just enjoy your teenage years and stop fretting about single life so much.
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