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writes:Hiya! Thanks to everyone that answers!Okay, so I met this guy about two month ago at a café near here (he works there), and we got to talking one day. It just kind of built up from there… now when I go in, which is about three to four times a week, I’ll stand at the service counter and chat with him for an hour or so. He always starts and perpetuates the conversation, and I’ve developed a bit of a crush on him.Here’s the thing: He’s dating someone else. They’ve been going out for about a year—she’s a bit older than he is. I’m four years younger than him (17 and 21)—he said he prefers a younger g/f. We really are good friends now, I think. He’s always asking me to stop by and keep him company, and he said something this morning when I went in shortly, about how he’s always excited when I stop by.He leaves tomorrow night, and I won’t see him until late December. I said I’d stop by in the morning so that we could say goodbye, but should I go back later tonight and tell him how I feel? think I’d like a relationship, but I don’t see how it could work out between us right now, especially because he’s dating someone else. I’d seriously be okay if it was just one of those crazy, one night things between us.Should I say something? What should I say? And when should I say it?Thanks so much!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2008): The thing I always tell people when they like someone who is with someone.
You like him, flirt with him, he seems to be flirting back, but he has a girlfriend.. is he the kind of guy you'd want to be in a relationship with if you know he's prone to flirting with other girls that may lead to more?
If he's happy with his girlfriend, you telling him won't do them any harm. If you need to tell him so that you know you got it out, then I don't see the harm in that, but think about how you would feel if your boyfriend had one night with a younger girl ..
Best of luck! Let me know what you decide!
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