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writes:Hey, got a kinda problem on my hands at the moment, well i like this guy, so does my best friend, she does not know that i like him yet, i want too tell her becasue we share all our secrets, i just dont know how she will take it, i have tried not to like this guy but it is impossible hes always on my mind, got any ideas how i could tell her without hurting her feelings?Next problem is the guy again! he knows i like him we call each other all the time, but i dont know if he likes me back, he has never mentioned it but niether have i. How do i get to know if he likes me as well? all ideas will be helpful thanks x
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2007): What you have got to remember is that your friendship with this girl is more important than how you feel about this boy. Tell her that you like the same guy as she does otherwise it is going to hurt like mad if they both ended up going out with each other and you see them holding hands, kissing etc whilst she goes on and on about him. By telling her that way at least you'll know whether she thinks your friendship is more important or having a relationship with him. If she chooses your friendship over him then both try to work together to get over him and move on. If she ends up having a relationship with him despite knowing that you like him then get rid of her as a friend and move on. Next time try not to like the same guy that your friend likes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2007): Thanks for the help and advice has helped alot! :dI dont think i will tell my friend because if she takes it bad then i am left with nothing. At the end of the day its girlfriends way before boyfriends! Right?thanks xx
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reader, Evangeline +, writes (11 March 2007):
 Hey,
You've probably heard this before but it is really important that your friendship with this girl is your main priority. Tell her the truth. Tell her that you like this guy quite a lot but you dont want him to hurt your relationship with this girl - any decent friend will see your point and will be greatful that you thought of the the friendship as the priority.
Over the last few years i have been in a similar situation with three of my friends, and handled them all differently. The first was a very similar situation as your in - i told my friend that i liked him. She ended up dating him for a couple of months - i was upset with her. But he ended up being an idiot and now we laugh about it and have a stronger relationship because of it. One girl actually fancied my boyfriend and soon after i split up with him, got together with him, she hadnt told me she was interested in him - this really ruined our relationship. The other experience was when me and a friend fancied a boy and i didnt tell her i liked him - she went out with him for a little while, but they split up soon after. after this i felt i wouldnt be a good friend if i chased after him so i left it. so in my experience its best to tell.
Dont think about how your going to persue him until you've talked to your friend. If it is a good friendship you really dont want to ruin it - keep us posted!
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