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*annyp
writes:Hey, I'm 18 and I have been trying to get with this girl at work for almost a year now and its not looking good, she keeps making up excuses but this new guy started and she's obsessed with him! She's on him like a rash non stop.Her friend has also started at my work and we cant stop flirting with each other but I still want to be with the original girl who suspects me and her friend like each other but her friend has a boyfreind so I'm giving the first girl a CD tomorrow and I want to give a CD to the friend too but not sure cause it might look like I'm trying to get us together. I also dont know how to sort all this out and how to choose which girl to be with please help :) thanks for reading!
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reader, Fatherly Advice  +, writes (27 January 2010):
 Some times you really wonder when you give advice if anyone is listening. Or if the listen then ignore you. I see you got the most important parts of my message. I'm glad you chose to focus your attention on the girl who is flirting with you.
It is a good idea to talk to her away from work so you know in a non threatening environment. That way if she turns you down it is just between you two. And if she accepts your advance you can plan on how to keep it hush hush at work.
I know that young people these days don't like starting with a date. What you want to do is ask her out for a little date like coffee. So you can kind of see how it works, and talk. Talk is very important. Dating a work mate is dangerous proposition because if anything goes wrong you both will still have to work together. You want to stay professional.
You seem to be inexperienced and quite shy. You should stick to little things for a while.
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reader, dannyp +, writes (26 January 2010):
dannyp is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok so i've chosen girl number 2, but i've been told the other chef at my work asked her out and she rejected. Now i dont want to tell her how i feel in case it hurts his feelings and damages the flow at work
i wont see her til saturday so i have time to think and i havnt told anyone at work how i feel about her yet how should i react this time? i really dont want to hurt my work mate and freind but i also cant carry on secretly wanting her and flirting with her please help i always want what i cant have and i feel under alot of pressure as this other girl at work likes me there is also a staff party next month should i try anything on valentines day?
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reader, AvgGuy1 +, writes (23 January 2010):
 Doesn't sound like girl#1 is interested at all. Go for girl#2. At least she's showing interest in you. You can always find out whether she's really happy with her current boyfriend and if not you're there to take his spot.
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (22 January 2010):
You want two girls who both have other relationships. On top of that, you work with them.
Here is some good advice for you. Quit your job. Thought I would never say that, but at this point where you are about to give them both a present, you are going to cause such a mess. By quitting you will save your boss the trouble of firing you for the harassment charges the girls are going to file on you. You will also keep them from fighting at work because you are trying to court them simultaneously. Your job search will go better because you don't have all that on your record.
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