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writes:Ok so theres this guy I really really like. we are in the same year and I think I'm in love with him. I am only young but I'd honestly take a bullet for him! but heres the thing - we are from completely different worlds. He is mister popular, and although I am mates with the popular girls I'm sure he'd never go out with me. Our school makes such a big deal out of things like this but sometimes we have little glances and I do catch him staring, but is that just because he stares? I've seen him do it to other people too, but I'm so sure he acts different with me. Other times I think don't be stupid. I can't explain it, but I have this thing inside me that is physically making me clench when I'm not with him.Not so long ago he really hurt himself and had to go to hospital - I was so scared. I couldn't eat or sleep in case he was badly hurt. When he returned to school I was so happy. He recently broke up with his girlfriend and my friends tell me now's my chance. but they dont understand. It just isn't possible to tell him. What can I do? Please help me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2008): I really like this boy at my school and I don't know If he has a girlfriend, but I really doubt it though. Not many girls like him. If i'm the only one that likes him then that's a good thing then. In the hallway I glance at him at the corner of my eye and he looks right at me too and just keeps watching me when I'm walking. He looks at my friends like he wants to say something to them about me or I don't know. I want to if he likes me or not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2007): Just go for it i told the boy that i liked him n he said he liked me too but i think he wants to go out with me but he dosen't know how to let me in
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2007): I think that you should ask him. If he glanes at you atleat once a day, it means you might have something going. I am in the same position you are in right now. But I'm afraid to ask too. So don't worry, you're not alone. Ask him! It may be worth it!!!
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reader, Jendorset +, writes (25 July 2007):
You may regret it if you dont tell him. x
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reader, ladybug  +, writes (22 July 2007):
 Ok, honey, there's nothing you can do when the strike of infatuation hits you, lols,Have the courage to tell him! You can start by hanging out with him as friend, both of you should talk and just enjoy each other's company, believe me its a good start,! I do really understand your situation, believe it or not , ive been in your shoes just few weeks ago, and now weve just started a very good foundation. Just make sure that he get over with his ex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIts been about 8 - 9 months now
he still doesnt know cuz i cant seem to pluck up the courage to tell him and im not going to..its best i just forget about it.
but thanks for all the help anyway
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhi again..well i still havent told him..i just dont think i can. not yet anyway. i just wanted to write in to say thanks for all the advice i've had so far, but i could still do with some more if anyone has anything else to say. it's not that it hasnt helped because believe me, it has, it's just i reli wanna hear a range of ideas before i choose which is hopefully the right one.
thanks again!
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reader, XxCandyxX +, writes (20 March 2007):
Hiya Sweetie
It seems to me that you really like this guy.
What i think you should do is get to know him a bit better and maybe talk to him in lessons more, ask for his msn addy and chat to him on that. Then once you have got to know him a bit better give subtle hints that you like him, but we all no boys are a bit slow at taing hints, so maybe tell him that you like him more than a friend, if not ask a close friend to maybe mention it, if he turns you down well forget about it. Its his loss neway if he doesnt like you and there are plenty more people out there who will love you the way you love them. Also forget what other people say, there just silly teenagers who wont mind there own buisness.
If you need anymore advice messege me
Good Luck xxxx
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reader, Jendorset +, writes (19 March 2007):
You could wait to prom night, but what if he comes with another girl ? Tell him before prom and maybe you will end up going with him. You just need to tell him, and if he doesnt like you back, you will GET OVER IT. You seriously need to tell this boy, i want you to. Send me a message and we can talk about it in more detail. PLEASE MESSAGE ME.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2007): hi its milli king agen.
u cud wait till after the prom but den if u fink about it if your neva gonna see him again then der isnt much chance that anything will ever happen between you. really in my opinion you need to forget what every one else thinks and focus on what you want. u are proberbly perfect for this lad, you just need to let him no how you feel. talk to him on msn n tell him how you feel. or ask your mates to let him know. not that many people have to know about it if you dont want them to. gd luk
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthis is in response to the first three answers i got - i just want to say thanks it means a lot. ok so i know i've already written but im a bit of a perfectionsist so i wanna know something else lol - ok so because of the way my school is, im not so sure i want to tell him, when i read i was like shaking but then i though no way you cant even be considering this! it just isn;t possible! - but do you think it would be a good idea to tell him on prom night? see after prom we never see each other again, and the thought of him leaving and me not seeing him again hurts me so bad but if i tell him then i wouldn't have to worry about what people would say. the only disadvantage is i'm scared what he would say back. not all proms end like cinderella and everyone gets the guy they like. that only happens in fairytales, right? or is it possible that he'd like me back? we do talk, but its just a "there" friendship kind of thing. nothing serious. i just dont know what 2 do!!!!!!!!!!
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reader, Jendorset +, writes (18 March 2007):
You need to think of it this way, if you dont say anything...he will meet another girl and you will have to put up with seeing them together, and KISSING. And that will hurt alot more than just telling him. If you can just tell him, or hint, you may end up together. And he tells you hes not interested, you will soon get over it. Beleive me, i know you feel like you would do anything for him but if he turnt you down it would most likely knock some sense into you anyway. You really need to realise that your a school girl and you will fancy alot of guys. And if you are not going to do something about it (such as tell him), then you need to just get over it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2007): Well, honey, it might well be a chance for you to at least show him that somebody cares about him. You might send him a card saying how much you hope he will be alright. I can't give you any advice of how to make your crush "notice" you. I was as miserable as you when I was your age (for a while). I was hopelessly in love with a girl who would look through me as if I wasn't even there. I even got into a really bad fight with a jerk who said something bad about her. We both got detention for two weeks. She never knew. Sometimes we just have to live with what we feel. "But this too shall pass away." And it will, Honey. You will mature and learn the difference between "crushes" and feelings that really mean something. Life is not easy for any of us. It is especially painful sometimes when we are very young. I don't know why the Great Planner allows this. Maybe it is to make us stronger adults. (?)
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2007): ok, well basically if he doesn't know you like him , nothing is ever going to happen. so its up to you to make a move. if hes just broken up with his girlfreind you may want to wait a while before shooting in. but if he seems ok and back to normal, theres no point in waiting around any longer.
you say that your from different worlds and you think he'd never go out with you, well you also say that hes being looking at you. (even though he does to other girls but what are eyes for?) the fact that you would put your life at danger for him shows that you must really like this boy. to not eaat or sleep would sound silly to many but i would proberbly be sick if anything happened to my ex, so i can understand where your coming from. you also say that you clench when your not with him. ( i no about this feeling, and how whatever your doing they always seem to distract you by popping up inside your mind.)
so basically, GO FOR IT! theres no point in waiting around. and forget about what every one else will think, its your life and if their so botherd by your's then they obviously dont have a life them selves! so do it when the time is right! you never know he could think about you in the same way. if it does nt work, dont be put off, just take it as a lesson and move on. it may hurt as he doesn't no what you put yourself through for him but you can always say to yourself at least i tried. theres other boys out there but its up to you to see if this boys the one! really really good luck!
milli king
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